Now I have seen something that most of the men, after getting advice from the so-called dating experts, that you should not pick her call up, reply her texts, act busy or just plain ignore her, completely try to conform to those petty dating tactics. But those don’t work.
Why? It’s because they don’t know how to play hard to get, can’t play hard to get or simply don’t want to play hard to get. That’s the problem you see. If you don’t know how to play hard to get, you end up frustrating her. Furthermore, if you are trying to reach an outcome by playing hard to get and you are not doing it the right way, you are just conveying your insecurity, lack of confidence and neediness. And it turns women off from a mile away! Then there are some who hate even the term of ‘playing’ and just want to wait for her to come running to them because they had been so GOOD to her, almost good to a fault.
Guys, it doesn’t work like that!
If you don’t show interest, you CAN’T create that sexual vibe, where she knows that you are interested and up for the game. So, you have to show interest.
But the question here is how to show interest? If you show too much way too soon, it is not good for the game. The frame will change into something, as ‘I want something from you’. That’s not conducive to the game. You want her to pursue you. But when you TRY to make her pursue you, she actually gets the hint that you are needy of the outcome. She gets repelled.
The ultimate plain thing is YOU CANNOT TRY! You try and you are NEEDY.
So, whatcha gonna do is show interest but don’t beg from her. Convey to her that you are interested but you are NOT that easy. You have to get her invested into you, into the interaction. If you show interest but act easy, she doesn’t respect you and she doesn’t feel the urge to give anything from her side. You want to level the relationship. And that’s why you need to get her playing into it.
How to play hard to get then…
Remember, you challenge her in TWO ways.
One, you should NEVER give away your personal power over to her hands. You should have a life. You should NOT be clingy to her. You should NOT let her make your life decisions. You walk your path. A MAN walks his path, which he thinks is right. She CANNOT control you.
Two, you got to enter her world and rule her reality. In this case, you are actually challenging her and dominating her. You tease her. You be a little sarcastic with her. You be naughty with her. You give her a hard time. Don’t cross the line and become an asshole. It is NOT ‘bout pissing her off. It is about conveying to her that you can take control of her. You are just being cocky. You are just being A MAN to her.
In the first case, you are conveying that she CANNOT control you. In the second case, you are transmitting that you CAN control her. This is this cool cockiness, power and dominance that women want from men.
So, to play hard to get with a woman, you don’t have to run away from her. It is about getting close to her yet being in control. DON’T give away your power and dominate her reality. That’s how playing hard to get is done.
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