As you know, we talk about some rather subjective, and at times
even philosophical ideas around here.
And just like I mentioned a few newsletters ago, it's all good.
Some of those "deep" ideas are what really give you an "unfair"
edge over other guys.
But hey, I like to mix things up a little. And there's definitely
a time and a place for some more objective, pragmatic info as well.
I'd say that time is NOW and the place is RIGHT HERE.
So how about we cover something today that just about every, single
guy struggles with at one point or another?
In this case, that would be how to tell FOR SURE that a woman
REALLY likes you...not just "as a friend", but that she is honestly
sexually attracted and would like to see where things go with you.
Now, we as men are famously inept at reading women in this way.
It's as if we need a woman to hire an airplane to skywrite in the
clouds overhead that she's into us....right after she whacks us in
the head with the proverbial 2x4.
Go ahead and laugh...but sheesh, it's pretty much true.
OK, so before I give you five ABSOLUTE, POSITIVE signs that a
woman's "touchie feelies" are an indisputable sign of real
attraction, I've got to throw something out on the table for you.
Look, if women find you gross and repulsive (read: "not sexually
attractive"), they WON'T touch you.
So then, if a woman is touching you AT ALL, it means that she at
THE VERY LEAST finds you somewhat pleasing to her.
Truth be told, whenever a woman (notwithstanding relatives here, of
course) goes out of her way TO touch you, it's a solid bet she
indeed finds you attractive--REGARDLESS of what that "touch" entails.
So bear that in mind before we even get into the ensuing list.
But just to make sure the bases are covered, here are five VERY
CLEAR ways a woman can physically touch you that leave ZERO DOUBT
in any rational person's mind that she's into you:
1) She Grooms You
You may know about this one already, so I won't harp on it much.
Scientific study has shown time and again that all members of the
primate world tend to GROOM others of their own species that they
feel affection toward.
So chimps and orangutans of the same social circle might sit in the
forest and pick nits off of each other all day.
Meanwhile, a girl you know might pick some lint off of your jacket
for you or straighten your collar.
It's all the same...just the human version. She digs you.
(And you've got to love my analogies, right?)
2) She's Cold And Wants You To Keep Her Warm
Either women really are more "cold natured" then men are, or 90% of
them have simply figured out the perfectly subtle way to get guys
they like to hold them.
You could spark a pretty good debate with that topic, couldn't you?
But either way, when a woman starts going on and on about how
"cold" she is, she not only wants you to give her your jacket, she
wants you to embrace her as well.
And that, friends and neighbors, can only mean she's attracted to
you.
Sometimes a woman's signals in this particular realm are a bit more
subtle, but equally unmistakable.
One of my favorites, for example, is when you are on the couch
watching a movie with her, and she turns a bit and tucks her toes
under your thigh...right while you're sitting there together.
Personally, I find that to be a very sensual and unmistakably
feminine move.
That half-playful, half-affectionate signal has "I'm crazy about
you" written all over it. It also is a strong sign that she feels
100% safe with you.
One time I read a woman's profile on Match.com that actually
mentioned the "toes under the thighs for warmth" thing. I wrote
her.
3) She Hits You On The Shoulder
While I personally believe that ANY time a woman hits you on the
shoulder (or your arm, or your chest) it's a sign of POSSIBLE
attraction, I have to make it perfectly clear that not EVERY whack
on your shoulder from a woman is created equal.
If you've just done something that causes a woman to seriously
buckle down and belt you pretty hard, it could be because you
flat-out deserved it--and she's bold enough to realize, at least,
that you'd never hit her back.
I wouldn't call that a definitive sign of attraction, but it's
really not a definitive sign she's NOT attracted, either...believe it
or not.
But if you're bantering with a woman and you end up saying
something that causes her to playfully whack you because you're
"bad", then it's very likely "game on".
The strength behind the whack really doesn't matter at that point,
by the way.
She may lightly tap you or hit you pretty hard. Either way, it's
not only a sign of attraction, it's likely also a bit of an insight
into what she'd be like in bed...no kidding.
But the highest-percentage incident of this type? That would be
when a woman hits you on the shoulder out of the blue--for no
apparent reason--and starts giggling. That's pretty much the first
stage of "foreplay".
4) She Paws At You Like A Cat
Oh man, I love this one.
Some women really get into the whole "feline" aspect of femininity,
and tend to literally "act it out" when they're in the presence of
a guy they like.
Amazingly, this can be either conscious OR unconscious.
But no doubt, some women (i.e. the particularly smart and intuitive
ones) know that this tends to drive most guys wild. Welcome to why
hotties LOVE to dress up in cat suits (or even like Catwoman) for
Halloween.
So basically, if she's talking to you face to face and starts
patting at your chest like a cat would while she's talking to you,
I'd bet $1000 that she's not only attracted to you...she's HOT for
you.
The example I just gave kind of a blatant one, but you can be on
the lookout for ANY kind of "feline" touch.
Look for her to "swipe" at you like a cat would, even lightly
across the face if you've just made a smart-aleck remark.
And if she swipes at you with "claws" like a tiger? Well, then
you're in "big cat" territory. That's money...especially if she
actually verbalizes a growl or a meow.
5) She Touches Your Hair Or Face
I'm about to tell you something SO obvious that you're probably
going to shake your head and laugh.
By now you know about the "kiss test" made famous by David
DeAngelo. Essentially, if a woman will let you touch her hair,
she'll let you kiss her. (That principle has NEVER failed me, by
the way.)
Well, here's a disarmingly simple variation on that theme that
ALMOST NOBODY ever considers.
If a woman wants to touch YOUR hair (or your face, or anywhere on
your head, for that matter) it means SHE probably wants to kiss YOU.
Think about it. Touching another person's head is a pretty
personal thing to do. Whenever a woman does it, it's sensual.
[Ed. Note: For what it's worth, by the way, if another dude ever
touches your head it's an aggressive act...you can bet on it.]
From now on I'd say you have no more excuses when it comes to
reading a woman's physical signals.
Sure, if she touches you AT ALL it's a positive sign of attraction.
But if she touches you in any of the five ways I just revealed,
it's a FOREGONE CONCLUSION that she's into you.
Now, if you've been reading these newsletters for long, you know
that I don't do anything "half way".
So stay tuned, because next time I'll follow up with five physical
signs that she's giving you SEXUAL PERMISSION.
That's right...we'll take the conversation one step further. We'll
cover how to tell for sure that she not only that she LIKES you but
that she wants you to TAKE HER sexually.
Unfortunately, tons of guys misread those signals also...so that
could be one of the more important newsletters ever. Don't touchthat dial.
_______________________________________________________
even philosophical ideas around here.
And just like I mentioned a few newsletters ago, it's all good.
Some of those "deep" ideas are what really give you an "unfair"
edge over other guys.
But hey, I like to mix things up a little. And there's definitely
a time and a place for some more objective, pragmatic info as well.
I'd say that time is NOW and the place is RIGHT HERE.
So how about we cover something today that just about every, single
guy struggles with at one point or another?
In this case, that would be how to tell FOR SURE that a woman
REALLY likes you...not just "as a friend", but that she is honestly
sexually attracted and would like to see where things go with you.
Now, we as men are famously inept at reading women in this way.
It's as if we need a woman to hire an airplane to skywrite in the
clouds overhead that she's into us....right after she whacks us in
the head with the proverbial 2x4.
Go ahead and laugh...but sheesh, it's pretty much true.
OK, so before I give you five ABSOLUTE, POSITIVE signs that a
woman's "touchie feelies" are an indisputable sign of real
attraction, I've got to throw something out on the table for you.
Look, if women find you gross and repulsive (read: "not sexually
attractive"), they WON'T touch you.
So then, if a woman is touching you AT ALL, it means that she at
THE VERY LEAST finds you somewhat pleasing to her.
Truth be told, whenever a woman (notwithstanding relatives here, of
course) goes out of her way TO touch you, it's a solid bet she
indeed finds you attractive--REGARDLESS of what that "touch" entails.
So bear that in mind before we even get into the ensuing list.
But just to make sure the bases are covered, here are five VERY
CLEAR ways a woman can physically touch you that leave ZERO DOUBT
in any rational person's mind that she's into you:
1) She Grooms You
You may know about this one already, so I won't harp on it much.
Scientific study has shown time and again that all members of the
primate world tend to GROOM others of their own species that they
feel affection toward.
So chimps and orangutans of the same social circle might sit in the
forest and pick nits off of each other all day.
Meanwhile, a girl you know might pick some lint off of your jacket
for you or straighten your collar.
It's all the same...just the human version. She digs you.
(And you've got to love my analogies, right?)
2) She's Cold And Wants You To Keep Her Warm
Either women really are more "cold natured" then men are, or 90% of
them have simply figured out the perfectly subtle way to get guys
they like to hold them.
You could spark a pretty good debate with that topic, couldn't you?
But either way, when a woman starts going on and on about how
"cold" she is, she not only wants you to give her your jacket, she
wants you to embrace her as well.
And that, friends and neighbors, can only mean she's attracted to
you.
Sometimes a woman's signals in this particular realm are a bit more
subtle, but equally unmistakable.
One of my favorites, for example, is when you are on the couch
watching a movie with her, and she turns a bit and tucks her toes
under your thigh...right while you're sitting there together.
Personally, I find that to be a very sensual and unmistakably
feminine move.
That half-playful, half-affectionate signal has "I'm crazy about
you" written all over it. It also is a strong sign that she feels
100% safe with you.
One time I read a woman's profile on Match.com that actually
mentioned the "toes under the thighs for warmth" thing. I wrote
her.
3) She Hits You On The Shoulder
While I personally believe that ANY time a woman hits you on the
shoulder (or your arm, or your chest) it's a sign of POSSIBLE
attraction, I have to make it perfectly clear that not EVERY whack
on your shoulder from a woman is created equal.
If you've just done something that causes a woman to seriously
buckle down and belt you pretty hard, it could be because you
flat-out deserved it--and she's bold enough to realize, at least,
that you'd never hit her back.
I wouldn't call that a definitive sign of attraction, but it's
really not a definitive sign she's NOT attracted, either...believe it
or not.
But if you're bantering with a woman and you end up saying
something that causes her to playfully whack you because you're
"bad", then it's very likely "game on".
The strength behind the whack really doesn't matter at that point,
by the way.
She may lightly tap you or hit you pretty hard. Either way, it's
not only a sign of attraction, it's likely also a bit of an insight
into what she'd be like in bed...no kidding.
But the highest-percentage incident of this type? That would be
when a woman hits you on the shoulder out of the blue--for no
apparent reason--and starts giggling. That's pretty much the first
stage of "foreplay".
4) She Paws At You Like A Cat
Oh man, I love this one.
Some women really get into the whole "feline" aspect of femininity,
and tend to literally "act it out" when they're in the presence of
a guy they like.
Amazingly, this can be either conscious OR unconscious.
But no doubt, some women (i.e. the particularly smart and intuitive
ones) know that this tends to drive most guys wild. Welcome to why
hotties LOVE to dress up in cat suits (or even like Catwoman) for
Halloween.
So basically, if she's talking to you face to face and starts
patting at your chest like a cat would while she's talking to you,
I'd bet $1000 that she's not only attracted to you...she's HOT for
you.
The example I just gave kind of a blatant one, but you can be on
the lookout for ANY kind of "feline" touch.
Look for her to "swipe" at you like a cat would, even lightly
across the face if you've just made a smart-aleck remark.
And if she swipes at you with "claws" like a tiger? Well, then
you're in "big cat" territory. That's money...especially if she
actually verbalizes a growl or a meow.
5) She Touches Your Hair Or Face
I'm about to tell you something SO obvious that you're probably
going to shake your head and laugh.
By now you know about the "kiss test" made famous by David
DeAngelo. Essentially, if a woman will let you touch her hair,
she'll let you kiss her. (That principle has NEVER failed me, by
the way.)
Well, here's a disarmingly simple variation on that theme that
ALMOST NOBODY ever considers.
If a woman wants to touch YOUR hair (or your face, or anywhere on
your head, for that matter) it means SHE probably wants to kiss YOU.
Think about it. Touching another person's head is a pretty
personal thing to do. Whenever a woman does it, it's sensual.
[Ed. Note: For what it's worth, by the way, if another dude ever
touches your head it's an aggressive act...you can bet on it.]
From now on I'd say you have no more excuses when it comes to
reading a woman's physical signals.
Sure, if she touches you AT ALL it's a positive sign of attraction.
But if she touches you in any of the five ways I just revealed,
it's a FOREGONE CONCLUSION that she's into you.
Now, if you've been reading these newsletters for long, you know
that I don't do anything "half way".
So stay tuned, because next time I'll follow up with five physical
signs that she's giving you SEXUAL PERMISSION.
That's right...we'll take the conversation one step further. We'll
cover how to tell for sure that she not only that she LIKES you but
that she wants you to TAKE HER sexually.
Unfortunately, tons of guys misread those signals also...so that
could be one of the more important newsletters ever. Don't touchthat dial.
_______________________________________________________
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