Disclaimer: Though I am a big proponent of what you call the essential 'Don Juan' theory. I love to love women, cherish them and celebrate their womanhood, not just for a day or a month, but for a whole lifetime! It's about love, NOT 'bout sex. Yet as Simon Heong suggests here, some quick love-making sessions don't hurt either ;-)
If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't
know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a
completely mind-blowing experience just to watch in the first
place.
I know it seems like it could be very magical.
It could seem very out of reach, something that someone is
born with, an ability or some kind of super-power.
But it's really not and it actually can be broken down into
some pretty simple steps that you can follow in order to
make the same thing happen for you. Today, I'm going to break
down some of those steps.
The first of all of these steps, and I really want to press
on this topic and talk about it a lot and really make sure
you understand, is that about 90% of the difference between
someone who's really good with women and someone who is not
so good with women, or mediocre with women, is in the ability
to spot a woman that is READY to make out.
I know it sounds kind of silly, but it's true.
If you walk into a bar and you walk up to any woman, period,
and you start trying to talk to them, it's going to be a lot
more difficult.
You can't make out with just anybody.
You have to be able to spot a woman who is sort of in that
state already and know that she is in that state so that you
can walk up and be that guy.
Usually what happens is these kind of girls don't get that guy.
The guy never walks up because so many guys are afraid to do
this and they end up going home alone or not really caring or
being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar, being
resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.
So what you want to do is cultivate this ability to see the
women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less
after talking to them in the first place.
There are a few very, very good indications of a woman
(especially in a bar atmosphere) that you can look around
and notice and know immediately that these woman are game,
or down, or ready to go for you.
I'm going to go over some of these qualities now.
*** Looking Down ***
The first quality is the quality of a woman looking down often.
When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.
When we look in different directions, we access different parts
of our brain. So if you look down, you're accessing your
emotional brain.
When a woman is in a bar and she's accessing her emotional
brain, what she's really showing is submission.
This is pretty typical. If she makes eye contact with you or
anyone else and then she looks down and then back up again,
basically what she's saying is, "I have an emotional response
to you looking at me and I'm looking down."
And if she tilts her head down as well, she's actually
physically dropping herself a little bit lower and giving
you the ability to walk up and be the dominant guy.
Now, if she were to look at you, smile, and not look away,
this could be a much more difficult situation for you. It's
going to be a much longer process for you because she's
meeting you head on.
She's not showing submission immediately. Women who you're
going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40
seconds or less are going to need to "automatically" take
this submissive role as a woman.
That's why you'll be able to make out with her.
*** Eye Contact ***
Another quality is that she's actively looking around to
make eye contact. This is crucial.
A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's
not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in
40 seconds or less.
It's going to take much longer. Again, you're going to have
to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up.
You can't just walk up and make out with her.
So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but
she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact
with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely -
I don't want to say target, but person - that you can walk up
to and immediately become sexual with.
*** Dressing ***
Another is the way they're moving and the way they're dressed.
I'll explain this a little bit. The way that they're moving -
if they're moving in a way that is.... Let's say they have their
legs spread out a little bit when they're staying, so they're
standing with their feet about shoulder-width apart.
It's going to be less likely that a woman who is standing
with their legs shoulder-width apart is going to be available
for you to walk up and dominate in that same kind of way.
The reason why is because she's standing in a dominant position.
She has a dominant, powerful body language and she's probably
going to hit you with a lot of resistance if you do that.
So instead, you want to find a woman who is taking up less
space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be
somebody who is outside of a group a little bit looking around.
Another thing is the WAY that she's dressed.
If she's dressed in a way that's super, super flashy and
she wants a lot of people to look over at her, she's probably
going to NOT be the kind of girl (I know it sounds kind of
funny) but NOT be the kind of girl that you're going to
be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.
The reason why is because those kinds of women are looking
for ATTENTION. They're not looking for dominance. They're
not looking for someone to dominate them.
So what you want is you want someone who's IN BETWEEN
"I don't give a shit" with the way they're dressed, like
"I just don't care," wearing sweatpants or whatever and
an elastic waistband to the bar - somewhere between that
and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really
low-cut shirt:
http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/
You want to find someone who's in between those phases, in
between those two groups.
A lot of women who are on vacation fall in this realm.
They don't want to over dress or under dress and they
don't know the way to go into a bar, so they come in
open-minded and they start looking around trying to make
connections. This is a really, really good situation for you.
So that's how you spot her in the first place.
If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a
second. If you think that she is the kind of person you
can walk up to and do this, then proceed.
Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your
girl - there are probably three or four of these girls in a
bar at any given moment.
You see one of them, she's attractive, you're going to
walk up and do this.
What do you do? This is where the most powerful kind of
frame control comes in. It's very, very important that
you understand how to control someone else's frame.
*** How to do it ***
By frame, I mean their reality. You're controlling
what they experience. You have to be able to stay in
control of that experience in order to really bring
her to the level of making out with you immediately.
I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way
of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible;
that way, you can go straight out and try it.
Here's what I would say, word-for-word, walk up to a
girl and right when you get up to her and right when
she makes eye contact with you, I want you to put your
finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh..."
Then you're going to slow your vocal tonality down,
slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal
tonality. Immediately you're going to start saying,
"Wait just one moment."
So you're going to say, "Wait just one moment," or
"Stop for one minute." You're going to be using a lot
of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or
"don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.
So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do?
Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever picture
you have in your head. So if I said, "Don't try to make out
with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls
are going to be hearing, "Don't make out with me," but
their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with
me," basically.
So they'll be hearing, "I should make out with this guy."
Now, during frame control you're going to be using a
lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get
this to go as fast as possible.
Please only use this for good.
There are lots of evil ways to use this. Don't try to
seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's
one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a
woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.
So you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and
you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and you say
"don't" or "wait" or "stop."
My typical is "Don't worry right now."
That's all I say.
And I slow that speech down - "Don't...worry... right now."
Then I go right into the next statement and that is,
"You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to
secretly kiss and no one will know."
And as I'm saying this, I'm going to be leaning in and
so will you. You're leaning in ever so slowly. At the
same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her
lips and back up to her eyes again. Count to three
looking at her eyes, and look down to her lips and
count to two; look back up, count to three; look down,
count to two. Just do that about three or four times
as you're talking.
This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to
practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're
going to get it perfect the first time.
Then when you walk in, again, you're saying, "We're
going to have a secret kiss. We're going to kiss and
no one is going to know." From here on out, you're
really just filling up space with words as you're
leaning in. You're still controlling the interaction.
So you're going to very, very slowly, with your right
hand or left hand - whichever one is more accessible
- slide your hand up toward her back.
You're going to reach around by her back. You're not
going to pull hard or anything. You're just going
to very lightly touch her.
You're going to be gauging. Is she looking at your lips?
If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to
go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want
to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again
and try it again. This sort of resets your meter in her
mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back
again, it's like it's a new conversation for people.
For some reason, that's how we are as humans. That's what
we do. Someone turns away and they turn back, we sort
of give them another chance moving forward.
So if you feel you're getting some resistance, turn
around, turn back and smile and continue. If she gives
you resistance again, then back off and I would find
somebody else.
What you're going to be doing if she's not, though,
and she's very, very comfortable and excited, she's
looking at your lips, you're going to move in very,
very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
Keep in mind, in a loud environment, you're going to
want to raise your voice, but don't raise your voice.
Make your voice very low so that you have to be very,
very close to her ear for her to hear.
Then you're going to keep talking. What I usually say
is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to
be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody
only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."
Then right as I'm saying this into her ear, she's
feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing
out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so
she can feel that hot air on her neck.
This is a really visceral, deep, sexual response from
women. They have a REALLY powerful sexual response
when you do this.
So very slowly, as you're speaking really close to her
ear, you're going to press your cheek against hers as
you're talking and slide your cheek as you're talking
and move over so that your mouth is closer to hers and
then you're just going to start kissing her.
And if you do this right, you start out with just
pecking, just once softly. Then you go straight into
making out. I'm telling you, 40 seconds is a long time.
This can happen in a lot less time than that.
I've done it in less time. I've seen guys who do it
in less time as well.
What I want you to do is work out "getting it". Maybe go
for a minute first or two minutes first, and then start
to cut it back to where you're doing it in about 40
seconds or 30 seconds.
You're not going to use this all the time, but when
the opportunity is right, it's really good to have
this in your arsenal as a tool, as a weapon for yourself.
You want to make sure that you have the RIGHT kind of
tools for the right job and wherever you see a girl
who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if you
beat around the bush, if you try to play your magic
game or you try to sit around and have small talk or
talk about how there's a fight outside or get her
opinion on something, it's going to turn her off.
It's what's called talking yourself out of a sale.
So instead of closing or talking to her and getting
her number or making out with her or anything, having
sex with her, what you'll be doing is you'll be
talking your way out of all that stuff.
You don't want that to happen. Instead, when you
spot this, you want to be able to see her, know
that that's what she wants, and go and give it to
her immediately.
This is the major difference between guys who are just
amazing at walking up and seducing a woman and guys who
WISH that they were amazing and walking up and seducing a
woman.
Keep all this in mind. There are a lot of other things as well.
There are techniques on how to speak properly with the right
tonality, how to touch in a way that allows her to feel
comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert
switches, specific things to say, NLP triggers that you can
use to connect and make sure that she's totally in your zone.
There are a lot more indicators that a woman is sexually
responsive and sexually turned on in that moment and a lot
of other things you can use, a lot of other tools you can
use for situations - or maybe she's a little bit more
resistant - and you can still get the same result.
_______________________________________________________
If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't
know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a
completely mind-blowing experience just to watch in the first
place.
I know it seems like it could be very magical.
It could seem very out of reach, something that someone is
born with, an ability or some kind of super-power.
But it's really not and it actually can be broken down into
some pretty simple steps that you can follow in order to
make the same thing happen for you. Today, I'm going to break
down some of those steps.
The first of all of these steps, and I really want to press
on this topic and talk about it a lot and really make sure
you understand, is that about 90% of the difference between
someone who's really good with women and someone who is not
so good with women, or mediocre with women, is in the ability
to spot a woman that is READY to make out.
I know it sounds kind of silly, but it's true.
If you walk into a bar and you walk up to any woman, period,
and you start trying to talk to them, it's going to be a lot
more difficult.
You can't make out with just anybody.
You have to be able to spot a woman who is sort of in that
state already and know that she is in that state so that you
can walk up and be that guy.
Usually what happens is these kind of girls don't get that guy.
The guy never walks up because so many guys are afraid to do
this and they end up going home alone or not really caring or
being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar, being
resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.
So what you want to do is cultivate this ability to see the
women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less
after talking to them in the first place.
There are a few very, very good indications of a woman
(especially in a bar atmosphere) that you can look around
and notice and know immediately that these woman are game,
or down, or ready to go for you.
I'm going to go over some of these qualities now.
*** Looking Down ***
The first quality is the quality of a woman looking down often.
When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.
When we look in different directions, we access different parts
of our brain. So if you look down, you're accessing your
emotional brain.
When a woman is in a bar and she's accessing her emotional
brain, what she's really showing is submission.
This is pretty typical. If she makes eye contact with you or
anyone else and then she looks down and then back up again,
basically what she's saying is, "I have an emotional response
to you looking at me and I'm looking down."
And if she tilts her head down as well, she's actually
physically dropping herself a little bit lower and giving
you the ability to walk up and be the dominant guy.
Now, if she were to look at you, smile, and not look away,
this could be a much more difficult situation for you. It's
going to be a much longer process for you because she's
meeting you head on.
She's not showing submission immediately. Women who you're
going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40
seconds or less are going to need to "automatically" take
this submissive role as a woman.
That's why you'll be able to make out with her.
*** Eye Contact ***
Another quality is that she's actively looking around to
make eye contact. This is crucial.
A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's
not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in
40 seconds or less.
It's going to take much longer. Again, you're going to have
to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up.
You can't just walk up and make out with her.
So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but
she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact
with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely -
I don't want to say target, but person - that you can walk up
to and immediately become sexual with.
*** Dressing ***
Another is the way they're moving and the way they're dressed.
I'll explain this a little bit. The way that they're moving -
if they're moving in a way that is.... Let's say they have their
legs spread out a little bit when they're staying, so they're
standing with their feet about shoulder-width apart.
It's going to be less likely that a woman who is standing
with their legs shoulder-width apart is going to be available
for you to walk up and dominate in that same kind of way.
The reason why is because she's standing in a dominant position.
She has a dominant, powerful body language and she's probably
going to hit you with a lot of resistance if you do that.
So instead, you want to find a woman who is taking up less
space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be
somebody who is outside of a group a little bit looking around.
Another thing is the WAY that she's dressed.
If she's dressed in a way that's super, super flashy and
she wants a lot of people to look over at her, she's probably
going to NOT be the kind of girl (I know it sounds kind of
funny) but NOT be the kind of girl that you're going to
be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.
The reason why is because those kinds of women are looking
for ATTENTION. They're not looking for dominance. They're
not looking for someone to dominate them.
So what you want is you want someone who's IN BETWEEN
"I don't give a shit" with the way they're dressed, like
"I just don't care," wearing sweatpants or whatever and
an elastic waistband to the bar - somewhere between that
and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really
low-cut shirt:
http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/
You want to find someone who's in between those phases, in
between those two groups.
A lot of women who are on vacation fall in this realm.
They don't want to over dress or under dress and they
don't know the way to go into a bar, so they come in
open-minded and they start looking around trying to make
connections. This is a really, really good situation for you.
So that's how you spot her in the first place.
If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a
second. If you think that she is the kind of person you
can walk up to and do this, then proceed.
Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your
girl - there are probably three or four of these girls in a
bar at any given moment.
You see one of them, she's attractive, you're going to
walk up and do this.
What do you do? This is where the most powerful kind of
frame control comes in. It's very, very important that
you understand how to control someone else's frame.
*** How to do it ***
By frame, I mean their reality. You're controlling
what they experience. You have to be able to stay in
control of that experience in order to really bring
her to the level of making out with you immediately.
I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way
of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible;
that way, you can go straight out and try it.
Here's what I would say, word-for-word, walk up to a
girl and right when you get up to her and right when
she makes eye contact with you, I want you to put your
finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh..."
Then you're going to slow your vocal tonality down,
slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal
tonality. Immediately you're going to start saying,
"Wait just one moment."
So you're going to say, "Wait just one moment," or
"Stop for one minute." You're going to be using a lot
of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or
"don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.
So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do?
Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever picture
you have in your head. So if I said, "Don't try to make out
with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls
are going to be hearing, "Don't make out with me," but
their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with
me," basically.
So they'll be hearing, "I should make out with this guy."
Now, during frame control you're going to be using a
lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get
this to go as fast as possible.
Please only use this for good.
There are lots of evil ways to use this. Don't try to
seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's
one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a
woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.
So you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and
you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and you say
"don't" or "wait" or "stop."
My typical is "Don't worry right now."
That's all I say.
And I slow that speech down - "Don't...worry... right now."
Then I go right into the next statement and that is,
"You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to
secretly kiss and no one will know."
And as I'm saying this, I'm going to be leaning in and
so will you. You're leaning in ever so slowly. At the
same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her
lips and back up to her eyes again. Count to three
looking at her eyes, and look down to her lips and
count to two; look back up, count to three; look down,
count to two. Just do that about three or four times
as you're talking.
This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to
practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're
going to get it perfect the first time.
Then when you walk in, again, you're saying, "We're
going to have a secret kiss. We're going to kiss and
no one is going to know." From here on out, you're
really just filling up space with words as you're
leaning in. You're still controlling the interaction.
So you're going to very, very slowly, with your right
hand or left hand - whichever one is more accessible
- slide your hand up toward her back.
You're going to reach around by her back. You're not
going to pull hard or anything. You're just going
to very lightly touch her.
You're going to be gauging. Is she looking at your lips?
If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to
go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want
to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again
and try it again. This sort of resets your meter in her
mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back
again, it's like it's a new conversation for people.
For some reason, that's how we are as humans. That's what
we do. Someone turns away and they turn back, we sort
of give them another chance moving forward.
So if you feel you're getting some resistance, turn
around, turn back and smile and continue. If she gives
you resistance again, then back off and I would find
somebody else.
What you're going to be doing if she's not, though,
and she's very, very comfortable and excited, she's
looking at your lips, you're going to move in very,
very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
Keep in mind, in a loud environment, you're going to
want to raise your voice, but don't raise your voice.
Make your voice very low so that you have to be very,
very close to her ear for her to hear.
Then you're going to keep talking. What I usually say
is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to
be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody
only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."
Then right as I'm saying this into her ear, she's
feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing
out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so
she can feel that hot air on her neck.
This is a really visceral, deep, sexual response from
women. They have a REALLY powerful sexual response
when you do this.
So very slowly, as you're speaking really close to her
ear, you're going to press your cheek against hers as
you're talking and slide your cheek as you're talking
and move over so that your mouth is closer to hers and
then you're just going to start kissing her.
And if you do this right, you start out with just
pecking, just once softly. Then you go straight into
making out. I'm telling you, 40 seconds is a long time.
This can happen in a lot less time than that.
I've done it in less time. I've seen guys who do it
in less time as well.
What I want you to do is work out "getting it". Maybe go
for a minute first or two minutes first, and then start
to cut it back to where you're doing it in about 40
seconds or 30 seconds.
You're not going to use this all the time, but when
the opportunity is right, it's really good to have
this in your arsenal as a tool, as a weapon for yourself.
You want to make sure that you have the RIGHT kind of
tools for the right job and wherever you see a girl
who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if you
beat around the bush, if you try to play your magic
game or you try to sit around and have small talk or
talk about how there's a fight outside or get her
opinion on something, it's going to turn her off.
It's what's called talking yourself out of a sale.
So instead of closing or talking to her and getting
her number or making out with her or anything, having
sex with her, what you'll be doing is you'll be
talking your way out of all that stuff.
You don't want that to happen. Instead, when you
spot this, you want to be able to see her, know
that that's what she wants, and go and give it to
her immediately.
This is the major difference between guys who are just
amazing at walking up and seducing a woman and guys who
WISH that they were amazing and walking up and seducing a
woman.
Keep all this in mind. There are a lot of other things as well.
There are techniques on how to speak properly with the right
tonality, how to touch in a way that allows her to feel
comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert
switches, specific things to say, NLP triggers that you can
use to connect and make sure that she's totally in your zone.
There are a lot more indicators that a woman is sexually
responsive and sexually turned on in that moment and a lot
of other things you can use, a lot of other tools you can
use for situations - or maybe she's a little bit more
resistant - and you can still get the same result.
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