I've come to understand one important thing over these years of meeting, dating and attracting women. You can create attraction very easily but to KEEP it is very difficult. Almost all of the relationships dwindle down in their mid phase. Let me tell you one interesting fact, all of the well-known PUAs we have heard about and follow dedicatedly are uncommitted to any relationship, except the ones of
Scot McKay and Stephen Nash.
So, what’s the case here? What are we missing? The thing is that we don’t give the woman what we promise. It’s that simple a concept. You have to ken one simple idea: when you give her what she wants, you are valuable to her or else, not. Now, when you dress like a movie star, you are valuable. When you approach her in a cool yet dominant manner, you are valuable. When you ask her qualifying questions and give her a hard time during the initial stages, you are valuable.
Here’s where the next phase comes. She wants to create that emotional connection with you. She wants to open up to you and wants you to get close to her. This is the stage when you are connecting with her and you are commencing the initiation of a possible relationship. Remember, it may not end up in a relationship but emotional connection marks the beginning of a chance relationship.
First of all, you should not disclose everything about yourself but yeah, you should show more of your real personality to her. She opens up to you, ask her deep questions, get to know her better and let her keep the imagination about you alive in her mind. She is more interested in sharing herself with you, not in learning the details about you. The fun is in the mystery around you. Be a little vulnerable yet a bit more mysterious to her.
As in the start of the interaction, don’t be overt and never verbalize anything. You should let her make her decision and just make her decision. You want to
make her think about you.
You are a mystery to her. She is finding you out. She is playing the detective and that’s fun to her. It creates the necessary sexual tension. To keep this sexual tension, it’s always better to avoid being too overt or verbalize anything. She should be the one finding it out. She should be the one caring enough about you to be able to understand you. This keeps the sexual chemistry alive.
For this reason, get your own life. Cultivate your dreams and ambitions. In this way, you also stay a bit out of reach. She is not the centre of the world to you. You have a life. She is just a part of that. She’s not the goddess you worship but she is just another human being who you are coupled with for your life. Focus on yourself. Focus on your life. She is just a sweet companion to you. She is your spouse.
You must always have a strong reality. Your reality is what she lives in. Don’t strip her that strength. She trusts in you. She depends on you. She wants you to be there for her. So, she looks for strength in you. That’s all she wants in the man in relationship.
Women love when you play banter them, when you tease them and when you give her a hard time. She loves
a man she cannot control. She loves a man who can challenge her and can have power over her. Be
a bit of a devil at times. Be mischievous. Be hard to control.
Challenge her. Let her play up to you or accept surrender. Let me tell you a woman’s darkest fantasy: That’s when her man is ‘authoritative and dominant’, when her man is ‘powerful and leading’. She feels weak and she feels attracted to her. All
alpha males wield power over their women in relationship.
So, to cut it short, be strong and leading, challenge her at times yet be a mystery to her. That’s the recipe to keep the fire of sexual chemistry alive in a relationship.
