Indecision Can Ruin You: What is She to You?

There's a point I feel I haven't clarified enough in the past and want to clarify today.  Because we've talked a lot about how important it is to have women in your life who are just friends and how they can help you to build a social circle and attract other women, and we've also talked about how oftentimes it's better not to hit on the beautiful women you meet because they probably have even better looking friends that you might like more.

 

But one thing I feel we may have glossed over is that when it comes to meeting a new woman, you have to decide in the beginning what she is going to be to you.

 

Let me explain. 

 

What  lot of guys do who follow this advice is flip back and forth between pursuing a woman and trying to be her friend, depending on how SHE responds to him.  This is a big mistake.

 

In one scenario, you might try to hit on her and get repelled, so you decide to be her friend instead.  That works if you can really hold yourself off.  But for some reason, women like to string guys along on a subconscious level.  They like to be desired, even if they never have any intention of ever sleeping with you.  And your desire for her only grows the more you realize she's out of reach--we all want what we can't have, right?

 

So every once in while, she's going to send you a mixed signal and get your engine going again, and you're suddenly switching over to pursuing her again.  Then she plays hard to get, and you're back to being her friend.  You've completely left your behavior whenever your around her AT HER MERCY.  So this "friend" is basically controlling you.

And from the other side, guys will make friends with some beautiful women and be doing everything right, and then all of a sudden one of the woman likes him, and instead of telling themselves she's off limits, he sleeps with her. 

 

If it doesn't work out, you've completely screwed up the value of that social circle.  You can't just keep on going out with that crowd, gaming girls, without their being drama or some kind of awkward feelings.

 

So in the beginning, you absolutely HAVE TO DECIDE what she is going to mean to you. 

If you just want to make friends with beautiful women and open up options for yourself, through her friends and simply from the social value you build cruising around with a group of beautiful women, then make that your plan and stick with it.

If you meet a woman in a club and she just wants to hook up and take you home--sure, go ahead and do it.  But don't mess with yourself by going back and forth all the time.  If you lose it and can't break rapport enough to get it sexual again, it's okay to decide to be friends and make the most of it, BUT STICK WITH YOUR DECISION. 

 

Keep your friends your friends and the girls you pursue on a completely different level.  What it does is put you in control of your emotions and your behavior.  Because while you want lots of women in your life, the last thing you need to be is their yo-yo.

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