Today we're going to talk about the fine line between
being sensitive and being weak.
In my course, I tell my students to be sensitive and
attentive when they are around women. But at the same time,
I tell them to not act weak, needy, or emotional. So where do
draw the line between being sensitive and being weak or
emotional?
I think the key is to exhibit sensitivity WITHOUT
sending out signals that scream out "I'm weak!"
Much of being sensitive is about "understanding" your
girlfriend. For example, you "sense" that she is upset
from work and give her a hug, or you know how to read between
the lines and see what a woman really means.
But it doesn't mean you should "play hurt" to get
what you want like most guys do (especially when they are losing
power in a relationship) or getting all defensive when you
are wrong.
And most important of all, it does NOT mean you should
be wearing your heart on your sleeve and constantly telling
people about your "feelings".
Here are a couple of do's and don't:
1) Do admit when you're wrong and "take it like a man"
when you are - without begging for forgiveness or acting guilty.
2) Do express yourself when it comes to movies and the
arts.
3) Do pay attention to your date or girlfriend.
4) Do focus on creating attraction. If you're "just"
sensitive, then you're just going to end up as her "best friend".
5) Don't play hurt to get what you want.
6) Don't get defensive when you're wrong.
7) Don't try to act helpless or weak.
8) Don't go on and on about your feelings.
9) Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
10) Don't act like a woman. Women want to date men, not
other women. (Unless they are lesbian, obviously.)
Here's a little trick: when you do have to express
feelings, express them through your actions instead of through
your words. This gives a woman a chance to "sense" what's
wrong or "freak out" a bit if she's involved. Don't overdo
this though - you don't want to start playing mind games with
women!
And honestly, you shouldn't worry too much about
being sensitive UNTIL you've mastered the art of creating
attraction in women. Because without attraction, you're
just going to end up as her "best friend". Keep that in mindnext time you want to show your sensitive side.
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being sensitive and being weak.
In my course, I tell my students to be sensitive and
attentive when they are around women. But at the same time,
I tell them to not act weak, needy, or emotional. So where do
draw the line between being sensitive and being weak or
emotional?
I think the key is to exhibit sensitivity WITHOUT
sending out signals that scream out "I'm weak!"
Much of being sensitive is about "understanding" your
girlfriend. For example, you "sense" that she is upset
from work and give her a hug, or you know how to read between
the lines and see what a woman really means.
But it doesn't mean you should "play hurt" to get
what you want like most guys do (especially when they are losing
power in a relationship) or getting all defensive when you
are wrong.
And most important of all, it does NOT mean you should
be wearing your heart on your sleeve and constantly telling
people about your "feelings".
Here are a couple of do's and don't:
1) Do admit when you're wrong and "take it like a man"
when you are - without begging for forgiveness or acting guilty.
2) Do express yourself when it comes to movies and the
arts.
3) Do pay attention to your date or girlfriend.
4) Do focus on creating attraction. If you're "just"
sensitive, then you're just going to end up as her "best friend".
5) Don't play hurt to get what you want.
6) Don't get defensive when you're wrong.
7) Don't try to act helpless or weak.
8) Don't go on and on about your feelings.
9) Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
10) Don't act like a woman. Women want to date men, not
other women. (Unless they are lesbian, obviously.)
Here's a little trick: when you do have to express
feelings, express them through your actions instead of through
your words. This gives a woman a chance to "sense" what's
wrong or "freak out" a bit if she's involved. Don't overdo
this though - you don't want to start playing mind games with
women!
And honestly, you shouldn't worry too much about
being sensitive UNTIL you've mastered the art of creating
attraction in women. Because without attraction, you're
just going to end up as her "best friend". Keep that in mindnext time you want to show your sensitive side.
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