Sexual Chemistry with Women…Redefined

You know what I have found over the years of observing and learning from the masters in the “game”. I’ve seen that they do so LESS yet go away with the girl. They are never trying hard or going over the top to impress the woman. They DO THE MINIMUM but they do it RIGHT. That’s their secret!

 When you first approach a woman, if she accepts your approach, it means she is ready to move along with you. She somewhat likes you. That’s the basic thing that the newbies don’t seem to understand. They think they have to demonstrate High Value but when the case is that they should just NOT say or do anything that makes the girl feel that you don’t have much social value or you are a low status man.

Get over the introductory phase as soon as you can because that’s a deterrent to the forward motion of your game, and assume rapport. Just behave as if you know her for years and let her be comfortable! You don’t have to do anything special. Just BE NORMAL and have a good time, give yourselves some time to connect for God’s sake. Remember the GOLDEN RULE OF SEDUCTION: She feels what you feel.

But when she opens up to you and becomes quite comfortable, if you just spend some good time with her, you are a nice person to her. She likes you. But does she feel that “thing” for you? NO, NEVER. That’s because there’s no tension in the air. Tension doesn't come when you say that her eyes are very beautiful, that would make her feel good and she will know that you like her too. But will that create any sexual tension? No, because you are making it clear in the first place and clear outright statements don’t build tension, and secondly, if she is beautiful, she must have heard this line a thousand times before.

And thus, to create that mysterious sexual chemistry, you need to FLIRT. What is flirting by the way? Flirting tells her that you like her and you pay special attention to her, simple as that. You can do it by being cheeky (for fun) or you can do it by your BEHAVIOR and ATTITUDE (with sexual intent). When you say something that pushes her away yet pulls her in with your demeanor, that’s being cheeky. If you are able to convey that vibe that signals to her that you are interested in her, WITHOUT being overt, then also she feels that rush. And the latter one is Real Flirting, because it creates that serious sexual chemistry with you being the man and her being the woman. The Fun Flirting is more like two individuals, just engaged in naughty fun, that's it. At the end of the day, she will think, "He was a cute guy". But in real sexual flirting, she feels that tension that is the hallmark of quality seduction. But, whichever way you flirt, keep that 'I am the ONE' feel to it...strong confident signal of attraction!

Rule of Thumb: Flirting is all about subcommunication.

But is sexual tension built with just this expression of sexual interest? Is sexual flirting only expressing your interest in her? No, this is just the first step. Once you convince her that you like her romantically or sexually (not platonically), steal her frame. Make her feel that she MIGHT BE wrong. Vin Di Carlo says that you should build the anticipation, without making overt physical moves, only incidental ones and even if you do, just play with it a bit. He says that you should also use a lot of sexual innuendos and double entendres, but no explicit sexual expression (though sometimes it is acceptable, when romantically and artistically done). This is where she feels that conflict in her mind and she feels excited as well. This is called sexual tension, which is basically the anticipation of something that makes the whole thing more exciting.

Remember, if you normally TEASE her or MOCK her (as I do...I'm a very playful character), she will have fun but when you add that sex-factor to that, when she knows that you are sexually interested in her, this increase the sexual tension even more, and builds up the sexual chemistry. Even if you act a little disinterested or bring a break in the aroused state, it creates a dissonance in her mind and her whole sexual being is charged up to a new level. When the sexual charge is there, she will either look to create rapport and comfort with you, or just glow in the seductive force. If she seeks rapport, you can break it a bit to ante up the tension. If she's wanting more sexual advances from you, cut on the sexual vibe a bit. These breaks will drive her crazy. So, convey your sexual energy yet play with it a bit. It is a game after all!

If you keep on being cheeky day after day or show her that you like her with your actions continuously, she goes into the mode of screening once again. She knows that you like her, whether you are being cheeky or subtle with your actions, she has you "solved" and it depends on her if she wants to choose you or not. There is that sexual element in the air, that’s true. But keeping up that sexual vibe is hard because you need to continuously prove your social worth to her along with indicating your sexual interest in her. It can be done even if you shower her with compliments, flowers or chocolates, and have fun with her. She will know that you made the move and she accepted you.

But women find men who are a CHALLENGE irresistible. And when you add that sexual feeling to it, they just can’t get over him. He introduces that sexual vibe in the air but still stays out of reach. That’s makes the women chase him.

How does he do that? He indicates sexual interest through his playfulness or subtle actions, but just when the girl feels that he is interested in her, he emotionally pushes her away and steals her frame. He makes her feel that she might not be right after all. When she feels like, ‘Does he love me?’ in her mind, you are being that irresistible man. She will come for you.

But if you give yourself up fully, that will ruin the tension built up over the time. What you have to do is just feel the cat-string theory. You throw the string but you make it work the string. Then give some more and then take it away, and again let it work for the string. The process is repeated until you two are so close that you can GO DIRECT on her. She will accept it. It continues until the later Deep Rapport phase.

Remember DON’T TRY for rapport. Just let it roll in its own whim. Be the Normal Alpha Guy. The ultimate mistake in seduction is to force it. Never do it.

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Ron’s Seduction Model…In Step By Step Bits

This post is going to be very short yet it will be of HIGH VALUE.

Where do you start? You APPROACH her, and you approach her DIRECT. If she is beautiful, she knows why you are there and if you can’t pull off the indirect approach with 100 percent precision, it will backfire. But even if you fumble in your direct approach, it shows that you have the balls to be a MAN and she will appreciate it, though that doesn’t necessarily impress the woman.

Right after you approach, DON’T be the jerk, going strong on her. You don’t want to freak her out. Just play it cool and meet her. Don’t hit on her right away. You felt like knowing more about her and that’s why you are there. Yes, you are showing interest but you are neither being a chump nor being a scary weird person round the corner. You are just that cute person who approached her.

Let her open up. When she opens up, you got to proceed from a formal level to a more informal level. Be a little fun… when you see you two are normally close, and that she is quite informal with you, gradually bring in the sexual vibe in the air. How the hell are you going to create that sexual tension? It’s always through flirting. Flirting is more of a push-pull kind of thing. You show tentative interest. She feels it but cannot be sure about it. When you show your sexuality and create that sexual atmosphere, you don’t give her a chance to see you just as a friend. The level of rapport decides how much sexual you can be with her.

From this moment onwards, you just focus on building rapport and upping the ante of sexual vibe/sexual tension. How? Flirt sometimes playfully and sometimes, just show her genuine sexual interest. What is sexual chemistry at the end of the day? Sexual chemistry is when there’s sexual feel in the air. If you flirt and she flirts back, there’s the chemistry. If you flirt and she doesn’t respond, the chemistry is yet not there. You have to try some other way or she might not be just open yet. Build some more rapport and connection and then, again repeat. Rinse, Repeat!

Rapport -> Flirt -> Rapport -> Flirt

Too much rapport without seduction will make you a friend. Too much seduction without rapport and comfort will scare her away.

At one point, you will be so close that you will just BE OUTRIGHT with your desire about her. She will WANT that. But that is in the later stages of the interaction.

Always remember, it’s all about subcommunication and emotional subtext that you should be worried about.

Flirt but Don't Push!

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How to Attract a Woman – Create that Sexual Chemistry

No, I’m not going to delineate out any quick fix PUA technique here. But rather I would rant on why the attraction tactics work on women? In short, I would be talking about the ATTRACTIVE MAN that women crave for.

What do women want from men? What do you think they want from you?

Many men think that if you worship them or put them up on a pedestal, they will start to like you. Now is this true? NEVER further from it! Women are flattered when you praise them and you celebrate them, but they don’t feel that elusive feeling, they so want to feel from a man. It’s more commonly called the sexual chemistry.

What creates that sexual chemistry? Remember that this sexual chemistry is what makes the bond, the relationship between you and the woman an everlasting one.

And how is that sexual chemistry created between the two individuals?

First of all, one thing needs to be reinforced and that is, you MUST show interest in the woman. Why? If she’s a hot woman, she will have guys approaching her and hitting on her every now and then. Now, just imagine the situation. If you were an average looking guy, not that rich or whatever, would she ever feel the pulse to come approach you. Never! She might give you a look BUT she will forget you nonetheless in a moment. You might say that you can approach her indirect. But is that really possible every time? No, it’s not. It’s because unless the two of you are likely to place yourself near each other by chance, you cannot run an indirect game. And placing yourself near her might not be that easy every time.

A little miss on your part and she’ll know what you want from her. That instantly signals that you don’t have confidence and aggressiveness inside you to match her level.

And here comes the biggie. Unless you throw in some sexuality into the conversation, she won’t feel that tension inside her. The vibe isn’t going to pop up just like that. She will not do anything. You got to make the move. You have to show her that you are confident enough to lead her. You got to take pains to create it on your own. Your showing of sexual interest in her just brings that much-needed sexual feel into the interaction.

But just expressing your romantic desire for her is enough? No. She has got thousands of guys showing romantic interest to her every day. She wants her man to be sexual of course, but she wants a MAN before that. And by man, I mean the attractive man women dream about. We are talking about the Don Juan, the famous lover.

A woman wants her man to dominate her, lead her and protect her. And for this reason, women want their man to be physically bigger than they are. They want their man to be overpowering, leading and powerful. Her man cannot be scared by her. Her man should enter her reality and overwhelm it. She wants to be guided by his reality. She wants to be a part of HIS REALITY. He should suck her into his reality. It’s about the confidence, or like they say, cockiness that matters.

You are SO secure of yourself that you make her feel secure in turn. She wants SECURITY from her man. She wants to let her hair down and depend on her man.

How can you show that level of confidence and security to her? Enter her reality and overmaster it! It’s that simple. But would she be accepting? You have to make it acceptable. You have to make it SOCIALLY GRACEFUL and ACCEPTABLE, yet send her the information that you are the MAN. You dominate over her and that you want her to be your woman and enter your reality.

Be Strong! And I’m not talking about physical strength, but INNER STRENGTH. Tease her, bust on her and just playfully dominate over her reality. Show her that you can lead and protect her. You are confident enough to be there for her in times of need. It’s just displaying your male sexuality. It’s called Flirting.

What does flirting mean? It involves showing your sexual worthiness and signaling your sexual interest towards the member of the opposite sex. Flirting is the most powerful way of creating that sexual chemistry with your woman.

So, to sum it up, how do you create sexual chemistry? Show sexual interest in a sexually attractive way!

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Keep the Fire of Burning Sexual Chemistry Alive in a Relationship

I've come to understand one important thing over these years of meeting, dating and attracting women. You can create attraction very easily but to KEEP it is very difficult. Almost all of the relationships dwindle down in their mid phase. Let me tell you one interesting fact, all of the well-known PUAs we have heard about and follow dedicatedly are uncommitted to any relationship, except the ones of Scot McKay and Stephen Nash.

So, what’s the case here? What are we missing? The thing is that we don’t give the woman what we promise. It’s that simple a concept. You have to ken one simple idea: when you give her what she wants, you are valuable to her or else, not. Now, when you dress like a movie star, you are valuable. When you approach her in a cool yet dominant manner, you are valuable. When you ask her qualifying questions and give her a hard time during the initial stages, you are valuable.

Here’s where the next phase comes. She wants to create that emotional connection with you. She wants to open up to you and wants you to get close to her. This is the stage when you are connecting with her and you are commencing the initiation of a possible relationship. Remember, it may not end up in a relationship but emotional connection marks the beginning of a chance relationship.

Okay, so what you do here will set the frame how you deal with her in a relationship and how you keep the attraction in your relationship.

First of all, you should not disclose everything about yourself but yeah, you should show more of your real personality to her. She opens up to you, ask her deep questions, get to know her better and let her keep the imagination about you alive in her mind. She is more interested in sharing herself with you, not in learning the details about you. The fun is in the mystery around you. Be a little vulnerable yet a bit more mysterious to her.

As in the start of the interaction, don’t be overt and never verbalize anything. You should let her make her decision and just make her decision. You want to make her think about you. You are a mystery to her. She is finding you out. She is playing the detective and that’s fun to her. It creates the necessary sexual tension. To keep this sexual tension, it’s always better to avoid being too overt or verbalize anything. She should be the one finding it out. She should be the one caring enough about you to be able to understand you. This keeps the sexual chemistry alive.

For this reason, get your own life. Cultivate your dreams and ambitions. In this way, you also stay a bit out of reach. She is not the centre of the world to you. You have a life. She is just a part of that. She’s not the goddess you worship but she is just another human being who you are coupled with for your life. Focus on yourself. Focus on your life. She is just a sweet companion to you. She is your spouse.

You must always have a strong reality. Your reality is what she lives in. Don’t strip her that strength. She trusts in you. She depends on you. She wants you to be there for her. So, she looks for strength in you. That’s all she wants in the man in relationship.

Women love when you play banter them, when you tease them and when you give her a hard time. She loves a man she cannot control. She loves a man who can challenge her and can have power over her. Be a bit of a devil at times. Be mischievous. Be hard to control. Challenge her. Let her play up to you or accept surrender. Let me tell you a woman’s darkest fantasy: That’s when her man is ‘authoritative and dominant’, when her man is ‘powerful and leading’. She feels weak and she feels attracted to her. All alpha males wield power over their women in relationship.

So, to cut it short, be strong and leading, challenge her at times yet be a mystery to her. That’s the recipe to keep the fire of sexual chemistry alive in a relationship.

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