Have a Better Dating Life Than Most "Good Looking Boys" Have...Scot McKay Special!

All told, I think it's perfectly natural that most of us as guys

would assume that other dudes who are "gifted" in the looks
department would have incredible success with women...without

really trying.

After all, that's how it seems to go for beautiful women, so why
not for men also?  

If a woman looks great, guys will be all over her, often (to their
own potentially disastrous risk) without concern for her
personality or character.

And really, no matter how much we hear about how "looks don't
matter" to women, we can't help but overhear them talking about how
"hot" a particular guy is and/or making side comments to their
girlfriends about how they may be fantasizing about him.

Great, huh?  

According to all external evidence, it would indeed seem that men
and women are a lot alike when it comes to how much looks "matter",
right?

What Sixth Sence Of A Woman Mean When It Comes To Dating For Men?

       

One of the biggest misconceptions about dating
is that women are somehow "more intuitive" than men, that they possess some special sixth sence, huh!

       Throughout history, humans have always tried to use the
supernatural to explain things that are mysterious to them.
Even in today's scientific world, there are still many men who
believe that women have a "special sixth sence". For example,
people always say women can "tell" if a guy is a "player" or
if he's an "insecure little boy."

       After working as a dating coach for several years, I can
assure you that this is NOT true.

       Women are NOT any more "psychic" than man.

Be BAD, Be NICE

Now, I have been in the field for quite some time and I’ve been forced to see the various probabilities of the social dynamics. I am a bit of a geek and I know my language does prove that. I write so complicated!

Anyway, just now I returned from a quick rendezvous and I discovered something. What really does suck a woman towards you? That’s your PERSONALITY. And how your personality should be? It should be both BAD and GOOD.

Let me expound that a bit.

When you first approach a woman or you’re to create the first impression, you MUST always be good, not nice though. Any girl, whether good or bad, will never even give a man with insolent idiotic attitude a second thought. So, that shouldn’t be your first impression. And there’s another plus point in that. Why? If you start with being nice, she is more likely to compel to respond positively. Now, you can unleash that bad boy weapon. She will find the new side to your character interesting. And in the later stages during the deep connection, when you turn a bit soft and nice with her, that’s just natural to her and she likes it. So, she finds that ATTRACTIVE balance in you.

If you can start with flirting as well as make her feel safe and comfortable, then you are awesome. But if you don’t know how to flirt when you approach her, just go in to meet her and be her friend. And when she is comfortable, you should start being flirtatious and BAD.

Note: If you are flirtatious and act NICE, she will be flattered but not feel that tweak of tension inside her. It’s when she can’t control you and you are really HARD TO GET that she starts succumbing to your sexuality.

Do FLIRT but also play HARD TO GET, with Intrigue and Innuendos!

Then, eventually you will be shifting to the normal ‘rapport’ or connection building stage. Now, this stage is actually initiated by the girl who complies with your qualifications, shows interest and tries to come close to you. At this stage, turn into a NICE GUY without giving up that ‘hard to get’ part completely. Qualify her, care about her, express yourself, have fun and whenever she does comply to you or comes up with some tests, disqualify her and bring back the BAD BOY. Only this time, you shouldn’t flirt. Let her work for you.

At this deep rapport stage, she should do whatever you want her to and you reward her by taking care of her.

You should appreciate her and reward her with LOVE.

In short, start with the BAD BOY and end into a GOOD BOY.

And what's the definition of good boy and bad boy?

Good Boy - Dependable, Grounded
Bad Boy - Unpredictable, Adventurous

But before you actually rush out to run the game on the first girl you find in the street nearby, you got to listen to the MOST IMPORTANT DATING ADVICE here.

You have got to SHOW YOUR INTEREST in the girl. It’s not like ‘so you are hot. I don’t care about you’ or ‘oh my god, you are so hot and I don’t think I deserve you’ but more in the lines of ‘You are hot, I Like it and I deserve you’. That’s the essence of Direct Game

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Why Flirting You Should be ALWAYS

First of all, you should understand what flirting means. Many men just don’t seem to understand what flirting stands for in the first place. Guys, it is NOT spitting out a clever line to a woman or buying her flowers to show your affection to her.

Flirting is a SUBTLE way of conveying that you are interested in her. Keep notice, I used ‘convey’ here instead of ‘state’ or ‘show’. Why? It’s because you can never show or state to a woman that you like her. Now, you would be thinking to yourself. ‘Man, I was just being natural and DIRECT, and I was doing my thing. I was displaying my interest to her outright’.

Well, let me tell you something. That’s NOT direct game. I don’t care what game style you prefer. The only thing that makes a pickup successful and gives that ROMANCE to the girl she so wants is through constant sexual tension. That’s what flirting is all about. Flirting generates sexual tension.

What is sexual tension? It’s that electrical charge between a man and a woman, when they come in contact with each other. As I always say, if a man and a woman are chemical elements, the vulnerability of entering into a chemical reaction is called sexual tension. Just imagine you meet a girl and there’s something that draws you to that girl. You don’t know where you stand with her; at least you cannot be FULLY CERTAIN about it. She may tell you that she likes you, but you are not sure about that. You think about day in and day out, and it changes into LUST slowly. You become crazy about her. What is that thing that makes you crazy about the girl? Was she too beautiful? No. It was how she made you feel, that sexual tension, sexual chemistry.

When you look at her intently without saying anything to her, speak on neutral topics and suddenly tell her how pretty she looked in the red dress, or you come close (to her face) and suddenly pull back showing that you were just to pick up that thing and nothing else, you are flirting and you are creating that much needed sexual tension. She feels the bombasting sexual chemistry between you. You make her start to think about you.

You are flirting and she gets the hint that you are interested in her. That’s starts the fire. You are not making it obvious to her, not letting her be sure what you think, and she burns aglow in that fire. That pulls her towards you. She gets attracted to you.

Rules of Sexual Chemistry:

• It must be soft and comfortable for her. It must not make her feel like a slut. It must be the romance she craves for - the Don Juan experience!
• You must make her receptive to your advances. When you feel like she's comfortable and enjoying being with you, you should bring that sex-factor into the interaction and see how she responds to it.
• You must make her feel that you are honest and genuine about her, and focus on her completely.
• Sometimes, she might want you to create a comfortable environment before challenging her. Sometimes, she wants you to turn it on as soon as you enter the conversation.
• She must be attracted to you as a person. She must feel like, 'this guy is cool and interesting'. Women love high status males (men that have some worth).
• TEASE the hell out of her. With 'what do you do', 'where are you from', etc types of questions, you get to know each other but do you excite her. Let's even say that you two find a commonality, is that going to excite her up? Nopes! When she returns back home, she'll think that you are a nice man. But you MUST challenge her. That creates the burning sexual chemistry between you two. Teasing her (a non-attachment attitude) coupled with a highly sexual, flirtatious vibe is what will turn her on.

But the only problem to this whole flirting thing is that if she’s a just a normal girl, she will react to it. But if she’s a player, she will know how to turn the table around, and we all love a player, don’t we? So, learn to PLAY THE PLAYER, bros!

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Fashion & Style - The Most Underestimated!

A short post! I’m not in a mood to write a long post for you all. I just came back from a night out and I’m fucking tired. Today, when I went to a house party, I noticed something VERY IMPORTANT.

All the cool boys were well dressed and girls were flocking around them!

But I couldn’t figure out what actually made them ‘cool’ and how their attire, their style played a role in that.

Later, after much observation, I realize a few points.

They wore clothes that were not designer-branded but that fitted them well. Those boys, whether they had good physique or not, had a masculine build (that comes from an easy fitness routine) and even if they didn’t have a huge bicep, the well-fitting T-shirt they wore highlighted their masculinity, through their body form.

Their clothes were clean, and they were going with the latest fashion trends. Remember, dirty clothes are never liked by women and in fact, it turns women off. If you were something that’s fashionable, it means that you are socially adept and you know how to carry yourself gracefully in this world.

Now, here’s the biggie. Do women pay so much attention to a man’s appearance? You bet…they DO. And I tell you why they do.

Dirty scraggly look: You don’t care yourself. You don’t value yourself. You live an unhealthy lifestyle. You don’t even stand as a potential mate.

Clean yet average dressing style: You are a hygienic person and you DON’T turn her off. But does that mean you turn her on? No, you don’t. You have to put in a huge effort.

Flashy style: You are proud of yourself. You take care of yourself. You respect yourself. You are displaying your masculinity. You are sexually available for mating. You are a potential mate!

But hold on!

Is that all there is? No. If you cross the boundary and pay too much attention to your looks, you look like you are insecure and you have way too much time to spare on appearance. Unless she feels you have a reason to look good all the time or take special attention to it, you come across as a fake. You put on a little flash, she gets attracted to you because you are proud of yourself, sexually displaying yourself and sexual confidence is always a turn-on for women. Furthermore, if you stand out in an attractive way, you are socially presentable, she feels good about socially aligning with you. So, good appearance acts just as a catalyst in bringing her closer to you.

So, there it is.  Your APPEARANCE & STYLE attracts her or helps in the attraction process. But don't be mistaken. Women still is attracted to one thing: YOUR PERSONALITY. Your sense of style and appearance only gives her an idea of that.

Now, run and check yourself in the mirror pronto and decide how you want yourself to be.

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Meet Women, Not Pick Up Women

Was the blog title a bit confusing? Well, it was perhaps. But what I meant is you should always meet women and you should never pick women up. Now, what kind of statement is that you find in a dating blog?

Okay, let me explain it to you. How did you get your first girlfriend? Perhaps, you were in college and you were partnered together for the chemistry lab project, or maybe you went to a friend’s house party and you were introduced to you as one of his sister’s friends. If you look back at it, you will understand that you were not out ‘sarging’, were you? Do you know what sarging means? Well, it means to go out and prey on women.  

You were just letting yourself out of your little world and being social. Yes, that’s the word, being social. You have to open yourself up, and go out a lot more. You cannot just stay inside the home and pray to God that you want a girlfriend. You have to go out and meet women (don’t read ‘pick up women’). Visit a bookstore regularly, join a painting, cooking or dancing class… you can also join any workshop for that matter…you can hit the gym, visit the mall, the activity club or the local art gallery. You shouldn’t have the mindset of that you are going out just to hit on women. That’s sick I think. That leads to a very poor ‘low-value’ mentality. You depend on what others think of you.

But ‘do your niche-work’, as Ron-Louise will tell you. Choose a place you like to visit and go over there to meet women. Streets may be hard for anyone. As if you were a tourist, you would have to go out and make friends. The same should be your motive. Keep some time for yourself when you go out and make some friends. You are not hitting on them, because unless they prove their worth, why would you? You can choose any place you like. Just take some out time and MEET PEOPLE.

Yes, you are supposed to meet people. Go out and expand your social network. If you feel like you want to know the person, just walk over and meet that person. And as you are both in the same place at the same time, it naturally creates a kind of connection between you two.

You approach someone not thinking, ‘okay, I have to pick her up or I’m sad’. In fact, you cannot pick up every woman you think you want to. You should be thinking, ‘well, she seems nice, let’s find more about her’. Just make your move and go over to meet her. A simple Hi is enough to open a conversation, if you are at a static place. In a dynamic place where everyone is moving, you can go with a Hi but you need to calibrate on it a lot. Since you are breaking into her reality, her motion, she might be opposed to it. And that’s why wearing a non-pushy demeanor is best. But yes, a Hi is always the best way to open a conversation.

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Just let yourself and her know that you are not picking her up. You are just meeting her, to see if she can be someone you would get to know.

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Touching Women THE RIGHT WAY is Important

I was spending some time with my girlfriend the other day and I just popped a topic that brought out some great information from her.  And the topic is touching women the right way.

Touching and dating goes hand in hand. Here’s a job for you: go to any bar and just observe how those Mack-Daddies interact with women. You will see them flirting, smiling and TOUCHING women left and right. That separates them from the average Joe, trust me.

Touching builds connection (have you ever seen a child getting cozy?). It is all about expressing yourself through touch. In fact, there is a branch of scientific study evolving around it called kinesics. And when it comes to romancing and dating women, touching plays a big part, not only in the initial stages but also in the final stages of seduction.

Let me tell you a story. My friend once approached a woman by trying to act as if he was removing something from her shoulder. The next thing I know he got SLAPPED hard into his face by the woman. Well, does such a little act deserve such a great punishment? Well, perhaps yes it does.

Remember, touching when done the right way will create instant attraction with the woman but if it is done wrong, she will trash you as the creepy or weird men category. That’s as abominable as the ‘friend zone’… believe me on that.

The first thing that you should always ask yourself is if it is NORMAL to touch her. It’s definitely not the time when you touch her but the context of the situation that matters. In fact, you should touch her right off the bat, as soon as you enter the conversation.  But see to it that it’s just going with the situation. Don’t make it look like you are touching her for the sake of touching her. Touching should always be to express you better.

The second thing to focus on is where you touch. Yes, that’s important during the initial stages of attraction. If you try to reach the innermost spot, you got to wait. Yeah, that’s true. You have to wait and take it slow. It’s a rhythm, a dance. You break it and you break the sexual tension, the attraction that you have built till now. Just escalate slowly more and more into it.

The third thing is the energy, the vibe that you transmit when you are touching her. If you scintillate nervousness when touching her, she’s going to freak out. You should be calm and composed, in a flirtatious sexual state and let her chill down so that she can open her up. Remember the golden rule of pick up women: she feels what you feel.

Lastly, you should always test the waters. You should calibrate to the situation and if you see it isn’t working out, just move on to something else. Do what works and leave what doesn't!

That’s it.

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Approaching Women Basics

Frame – Think SEXUAL and get SEXUAL

“Remember the golden rule of seduction: she feels what you feel. You in sexual state induce her to get into the sexual state. You in a frivolous state get her in a frivolous state. You in a negative mood can infuse negativity in her. Moreover, when you don’t focus on your inner voice, you don’t focus on impression but on unrestrained expression of yourself. Women love self-confidence in men, in other words, cocky men.”

Opener – something that FLIRTS.

“The best way to approach women is to vibe with her. So, the best openers are that are situationally relevant and flirtatious. If she’s at the grocery store or buying a book at the bookstall, you can comment her on that. It tells her that you are flirting with her but you are socially graceful. You can only flirt…you cannot push ever. Some people espouse the use of HI or HELLO. It’s equally effective since you are being outright about your interest, just as when you are complimenting her. But this at times asks you to break into the reality of the woman, which might not be acceptable for her. In a static situation where she is open to this, you can go with ‘hi’ or ‘hello’. But it’s been seen that a Hi has the highest success rate as an opener. But ultimately, it’s in the energy you transmit and it should always be flirtatious. A Hi is successful because sometimes, if you err with the situational comment, it can convey what you don’t want to mean whereas a Hi is always situationally relevant and flirtatious.”

Discipline – Set a target or a goal. You should approach a number of women within a set period of time. That keeps up your momentum and sees you undergo continuous improvement in the field.

“I’ve a girlfriend and I’m taking it slow. My target is to approach at least one woman every week. I don’t like to spin too many plates at a time. But just to be on the move, I am keeping this goal. Choose what is best for you.”

You should know the right techniques (learn from THE DATING GURU) and should be committed enough to keep to it. That’s the secret to a master seducer.

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Keep the Fire of Burning Sexual Chemistry Alive in a Relationship

I've come to understand one important thing over these years of meeting, dating and attracting women. You can create attraction very easily but to KEEP it is very difficult. Almost all of the relationships dwindle down in their mid phase. Let me tell you one interesting fact, all of the well-known PUAs we have heard about and follow dedicatedly are uncommitted to any relationship, except the ones of Scot McKay and Stephen Nash.

So, what’s the case here? What are we missing? The thing is that we don’t give the woman what we promise. It’s that simple a concept. You have to ken one simple idea: when you give her what she wants, you are valuable to her or else, not. Now, when you dress like a movie star, you are valuable. When you approach her in a cool yet dominant manner, you are valuable. When you ask her qualifying questions and give her a hard time during the initial stages, you are valuable.

Here’s where the next phase comes. She wants to create that emotional connection with you. She wants to open up to you and wants you to get close to her. This is the stage when you are connecting with her and you are commencing the initiation of a possible relationship. Remember, it may not end up in a relationship but emotional connection marks the beginning of a chance relationship.

Okay, so what you do here will set the frame how you deal with her in a relationship and how you keep the attraction in your relationship.

First of all, you should not disclose everything about yourself but yeah, you should show more of your real personality to her. She opens up to you, ask her deep questions, get to know her better and let her keep the imagination about you alive in her mind. She is more interested in sharing herself with you, not in learning the details about you. The fun is in the mystery around you. Be a little vulnerable yet a bit more mysterious to her.

As in the start of the interaction, don’t be overt and never verbalize anything. You should let her make her decision and just make her decision. You want to make her think about you. You are a mystery to her. She is finding you out. She is playing the detective and that’s fun to her. It creates the necessary sexual tension. To keep this sexual tension, it’s always better to avoid being too overt or verbalize anything. She should be the one finding it out. She should be the one caring enough about you to be able to understand you. This keeps the sexual chemistry alive.

For this reason, get your own life. Cultivate your dreams and ambitions. In this way, you also stay a bit out of reach. She is not the centre of the world to you. You have a life. She is just a part of that. She’s not the goddess you worship but she is just another human being who you are coupled with for your life. Focus on yourself. Focus on your life. She is just a sweet companion to you. She is your spouse.

You must always have a strong reality. Your reality is what she lives in. Don’t strip her that strength. She trusts in you. She depends on you. She wants you to be there for her. So, she looks for strength in you. That’s all she wants in the man in relationship.

Women love when you play banter them, when you tease them and when you give her a hard time. She loves a man she cannot control. She loves a man who can challenge her and can have power over her. Be a bit of a devil at times. Be mischievous. Be hard to control. Challenge her. Let her play up to you or accept surrender. Let me tell you a woman’s darkest fantasy: That’s when her man is ‘authoritative and dominant’, when her man is ‘powerful and leading’. She feels weak and she feels attracted to her. All alpha males wield power over their women in relationship.

So, to cut it short, be strong and leading, challenge her at times yet be a mystery to her. That’s the recipe to keep the fire of sexual chemistry alive in a relationship.

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The Greatest Mistake in Seducing Women

I’d a girlfriend recently and she is my current girlfriend, one of my subjects of seduction. And she is like the rest of the girls I attract and get attracted to. She is very sexy (will post her photo some other day) and at the same time, she is a CHALLENGE…Period.

I don’t like girls who are easy, I like girls who can make me work a bit, but nonetheless, they should be comfortable with their sexuality and expressing it, in other words, they should be damn sexual. But when she makes me work, I couldn’t stand it. Eventually I convinced myself, she‘s not the one to be my girlfriend. She is made of the wrong material and if I go for her, I’m doomed in the future. I believed I was following my theory, ‘Always try to keep Positivity around you’.

Yes, today again, I was about to have a fight with myself over how hard she is and was about to break up with her, when I realized something BIG. I was actually making a mistake.

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To start with, I was being totally insecure and INSECURITY KILLS ATTRACTION. You should know what you are, where you stand and that you stand there strong enough. You love yourself, others love you. You respect yourself, others respect you. You value yourself, others value you. Every man falls prey to insecurity at some point of their life and so was I.

And the next big mistake was I was trying to control her life, her lifestyle. I was trying to be a dictator. I didn’t accepted it myself but notwithstanding, always tried to behest her what to do and what not to do. I was being that JERK who doesn’t care about her but only wants what he wants and keeps pushing for it. This is a big turn-off to women.

Rule of the thumb: You have to understand a woman and accept her reality (when she opens herself up to you). You cannot try to change her reality the way you like. She may not be comfortable in the new one and thus, can lead to further problems. Don’t take shit but don’t shit with her as well. She’s a human and if she’s quality, she’s a life.

Now, the biggie…the Art of Seduction says that you don’t physically force her to come to you, but you mentally force her to capitulate to you. You cannot just say ‘do this’ or ‘do that’. But you have to work on her mind so that she herself does this or that. It’s like that great sales representative who makes his customer feel like he’s making the choice. You cannot ever make the choice for her but you can just lead her to the options available, the options you want her to choose from.

Rule of the thumb: Work on her mind. Let her ACT on her choice. You don't own her. Don’t make her act on your choice, that’s brutal and fatuous. You want to be the prince she chooses, not the villain who forcefully abducts her, binding her with ropes.

Well, on the mention of ropes, some girls do like them. Learn more about Sexual Satisfaction by clicking HERE.

I think that’s it for now. I’ll try to control my tiger instinct of dominating over others and unleash the Casanova within.

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Scot McKay Reviewed - Are You A Man?

There are so many dating gurus in the scene that sometimes you are not sure who you should follow and who is actually worth it. In fact, I don’t know about any survey like that, but if a survey is done on how many PUAs are cropping up everyday worldwide, it should be touching a few thousands I believe. So many, gosh!

To be honest, one PUA (oops, he doesn’t condone the name ‘PUA’ though), rather dating guru who has been on the scene for quite some time is Scot McKay.

Now who is Scot McKay? Scot McKay is the owner of X & Y Communications and works from San Antonio, Texas. Frankly speaking, I didn’t know of this guy until recently when I signed up for his free 16 Dating Principles e-newsletters. Nonetheless, I went for his The Chick Whisperer program and the as well.

Before I say anything on this man, let’s just clear up one thing. This guy is into a long term relationship (he is in fact married with his wife, Emily, who runs the business with him and helps women in turn), and safely purport, ’he’s been there and he’s done that’. When I read his teachings and principles, I find a great resemblance with Stephen Nash. He is just as genuine and compassionate as the latter.

And if you ask me, I’d always go with someone who is REAL and SUCCESSFUL in the field rather than a wannabe who is trying, learning and then teaching. That’s where Scot McKay scores over other guys.

Let’s talk about his works. Before I remark, I’d say that I always liked the dating products that served as enlightening guides to dating women. Read the works of Scot McKay and you will come to picture a very strong alpha male connecting with you. He is upfront and has the superior skill to socially handle new challenges as they come. This is confirmed by the incident that followed when Stephen Nash’s friend Barry Kirkey badmouthed Scot’s wife in his show. Scot stood up and made Barry realize his mistake. That’s another story that the two are now friends.

Well, to sum it up, when it comes to getting a deeper meaning of dating, romance and relationships (for both men and women), I’d suggest Scot McKay. In fact, I think The Power Sessions program, that allows you personal access to Scot and his team, along with the Free Lifetime Membership is a must for every guy in the dating scene. What you say?

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Do You Know The Idea of Masculinity? Women Know It!

If you ask any woman about what kind of men they want, they would reply right away that women want MASCULINE men, men who are ‘manly’. They drool over manly men and if you think they want looks, money or fame, no, you are wrong. Women want that x-man factor in you, if you know what I mean. This was quite a mystery to me for a long time, and I’m sure it is to most other men as well. What’s this thingy called manliness? Tell me something, can you be sure about what actually manliness means. I’m sure I’ll get very scattered and dissimilar (even contradictory) answers from you all.

But here’s the funny part, all of you will still have a similar feeling when someone MANLY comes in front of you (yes, even if you are A GUY yourself) but you just can’t describe it. Yes, I know I’m right and I studied on this for a long time. Here’s what I found.

Well, the very first picture, when we consider a masculine or macho man, that strikes us, is a huge bulked up person strutting down the street with a tough expression on his face! Wow, so manly, isn’t it? No, I don’t think so and I bet, almost all women would agree with me. He looks FAKE but not manly. But this is the normal notion that we hold of a manly man. He should not talk much, he should have zero facial expression, he should have big muscles and he should rather be unsocial with others. That doesn’t sound macho to me, but it definitely sounds nauseating, that’s for sure.

And fortunately, women have a very different idea of manliness. Before you go on to learn about what manliness is, let’s discuss about something more or less related to it. We are talking about Alphaness. What the heck is Alphaness? Who’s an Alpha? An Alpha is the dominant member of any social group. It can be easily understood that an alpha is basically a social, resourceful and dominant leader. Yes, women love leaders. Women love men who can take decisions, who can take a lead and go get what he wants. It’s expected of men to direct women and that’s so manly…

Let’s take it further. We are coming on to the main idea of masculinity now. What is A MAN? A man is the dominant, aggressive and leading force of life that provides the woman a sense of direction and power to survive in this world. A woman is the soft and graceful force of life that nurtures the man and provides him with a shelter. He moves in a direction and she stays and keeps him grounded. He is soaring while she pushes him up. He is the leader while she’s the follower. He’s dominant and aggressive, and she’s recessive and receptive. A woman looks for REAL CONFIDENCE and SENSE OF SECURITY in a man.

Masculinity and femininity are two extreme ends of a pole. The more one is distant from the other, the more the two are attracted to one another. This is just the law of attraction.

Anyway, to summarize this whole masculinity thing, masculinity is inner power, the inner strength and that turns on a woman big time. Remember, a woman’s darkest fantasy is to submit her to the right man, who has the power over her, women want MEN!

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New Year’s Eve: A Few Tips on Making the Most of It

Wow! That time of the year and you are all set to go for it...Just before you set out, a few hinters for you...

Rule no. 1 – Always know how to get home. You should have your transportation planned. This is called the endgame. Have it planned! When transportation is not available to the group of girls, your car might be the heaven for them.

Rule no. 2 – Stay in a bigger venue for quite some time. It’s about building the necessary social proof before jumping on to the action. If they recognize your face, they will go on to learn about you some more. You get me where I’m going? Good. Hopping from parties to parties is not what you want to do exactly.

Rule no. 3 – Oh, I just forgot. The most important thing is to have one specific goal. Do you know what you want? Listen, until you complete yourself, nothing in the whole world will complete and satiate you. And to satisfy yourself, you need to understand where you want to go. Realize your goal for the New Year.

Rule no. 4 – Don’t wait for the countdown to make the move. You can just set your watch blatantly in front of her and make the move when you feel it’s time and she wants it. She will welcome your advances, no doubt on that. But if you wait, there’s a huge chance that she’ll hook up someone else in the later hours of the night. You just weren’t fun enough for her. Don’t give her any excuse.

Rule no. 5 – You are known by the company you keep, at least for THIS NIGHT. You have cool friends means you are cool. Save some other day for your nerdy buddy Jack or your little sister Rose. Be focused on what you want and get likeminded people to join you for the purpose.

Last but not the least is not to forget to have fun. It’s the last night, damn it. Just live it to the fullest.

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The Ultimate Reason why you FAIL to Attract Women (for advanced PUAs)

You have been learning the picking up women thingy for quite some time, coping to adjust to the different tactics and tricks told to you by the other senior dating coaches and pick-up artists. But the problem is that when someone advises you not to show interest, someone else tells you to go up there and directly compliment the girl. Someone asks you not to call before three days whereas someone tells you not to wait so much. All of them behests you to take action and action you will take, but how? You are just so confused! You feel stuffed and you are not sure which one’s going to work.

This is just like the situation in sales, when the customer is overwhelmed with so many choices that they don’t purchase anything at last, because their thought process is clouded and they are scared away. This is the case with many budding PUAs, who just don’t know what to do. They are not clear with themselves. How on earth can they be clear about social dynamics and women then? This article strives towards that. It clarifies about what you really need and how you are gonna get there.

So, what’s the most important thing when it comes to picking up women? Why do you fail to attract them? It’s not because of your neediness, it’s not because you were not fun enough, it’s not because you were not mystery enough, but because you DON’T think you deserve that woman.

Just think about it. Why would you try to be fun, in the first place? You want to attract women, and if you NEED to be fun to attract women, you are being needy. Why are trying to be mysterious? It’s not because it’s your style but you have been told that you can get girls this way, again that neediness. Ok, here’s the biggie. You don’t want to be needy and you try hard for that. Why? You NEED to gain her attention and approval, and that’s why you shouldn’t be needy. Quite paradoxical, isn’t it? Yes, it is.

Now, the question is where does the neediness comes from…it comes from you doubting yourself. Whether you are being jealous, you are being nervous or you are just trying to be smart, you DOUBT yourself. You doubt your identity and you don’t have confidence. You are a wannabe! And you know how girls hate wannabes. They want to feel that solid inner strength. They want you to come from that unshakeable reality. You are secure of yourself, your identity, your very existence. This makes the girl attracted to you.

Remember, when you are approaching or you are interacting with that hottie, you should never doubt that she’s not gonna like you. You have solid looks, you have solid personality, you have an interesting lifestyle and you have solid future. If you are not sure of the looks, start taking fashion and grooming sessions, you should feel good about yourself. For personality improvement, take personality improvement classes or just idolize someone and emulate him. Work on your future, study hard, get a job and secure your future.

Ask yourself the following questions:

**Will she want me?

**Can she fall in love with me?

**If so, why would she ever fall in love with you?

You need to be confident on your value, a high sense of self-worth. It’s not about being rude or being angry. It’s just knowing how worthy you are.

Remember, she won’t love you because you love her. She will love you because of the person you are. Now, what kind of person you are? I always had a limiting belief that a woman always hankers after money, after good looks. They are initially attracted by money or looks. But I later realized they don’t feel ‘that thing’. In other words, they are not attracted to looks and money. They are attracted to the feeling you generate in them. And that comes from your personality that overshadows your looks and money and holds the key to the power of these latter two factors. In fact, most rich men and handsome men are very confident of themselves and that gives a positive feeling to the women around them. It’s all in the way you carry yourself. It’s all in how you make her feel, the way she feels when she’s with you.

You need to believe that you are a complete 10! This feeling of being a ten is what makes you desirable in the eyes of another ten. She knows that you are her equal and she get’s attracted to you. As most of the dating gurus and PUAs will assert, it’s all value. You must always have equal or more value than that of a woman.

So, I believe you need not try to be fun, you need not try to be non-needy, you need not try to be alpha…you just have to start working on yourself. You need to know and value yourself. That self-confidence will shine on her. Even if you feel a little nervous when making the move, just know that she’s your equal and you deserve her. The question is whether she deserves you or not.

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What TURNS ON a woman’s Interest?

Many a times, we have tried to figure out what actually hooks a woman to you. How can you get a woman’s interest? I have and I know you do too.

Some pick up artists would advise you not to pay attention to them. Some will suggest you to be genuinely curious and show interest. Some will push for expressing your sexuality. Are they wrong? No they aren’t but yeah, partly they are. They know what might work but perhaps they don’t know why that works. Of course, some of them are really good at what they do and one thing needs to be reiterated that you can never totally understand anyone. But anyone who’s worth trying to understand is what we are looking for.

Back to the question, what turns on a woman’s interest? Is it your looks? Is it your money? Is it not paying attention to her? Is it you talking aloud? Is it being Alpha among other men? None of them is the actual reason.

Before that, let us find out what does a woman wants from a man. She wants her man to be a MAN. She wants to surrender herself to her man and she wants her man to accept her completely and LOVE her. She wants to be appreciated, she wants to be loved and she wants to be cherished. I cannot underpin this one more. Anyway, can you see a basic thing here? We are talking about what she wants.

Yes, that’s the secret. You need to give her what she wants, sometimes deep inside even without her knowledge. You need to know her frustration, you need to know her problems, you need to construe her deepest desires and you have to cater to that. Some has a strong personality themselves and wants someone very dominant. Some are soft and they are looking for sweet romance. Some just want to have fun and they are looking for fun. She can know you from the get-go. The moment she looks at you, she knows if you are the one, or at least, she decides whether you are worth the chance. This is called VALUE in PUA terminology.

The secret to turning a woman’s interest is to show promise that you can ADD VALUE into her life. And you do that with your personality...Then you have her attention.

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Why Most Guys FAIL To Pick Up Women?

I’ve been with men who are natural with women and I’ve been with men who just sucked at women. And over the years, I’ve notice the similar patterns every now and then. This is kind of a secret code-breaker to art of seduction, to the art of picking up women.

Okay, let me first discuss what you normally do when you try to woo a woman. Of course, you bring her flowers and chocolates, send her regular text messages, etc, and other dating coaches do know about it and they try to help but in vain. See, learning what to do and what not to do isn’t going to make you PUA or a player, for God’s sake.

Being a PUA means you have mastered the social dynamics of male-female courtship INSIDE OUT. It’s as if you are learning kung-fu from someone; you have to ingrain it into your very soul. It’s gradual and it’s about Zen philosophy of life. Then you are a PUA.

No, I’m not going too much detail into that. Let’s just prune it short and tell you what the dating mistakes are. You wear the wrong clothes, you walk the wrong way, you talk the wrong way, you smile the wrong way, you eat the wrong way, you drive the wrong way, you touch her wrong way, and you…so on. Gosh! That includes just about everything. So, am I saying you have to remold yourself? Well, perhaps you have to. I’m not going to fake here.

Here’s why. Most of the quality girls will say that guys are so predictable and boring, and that they want a MAN. Now what’s happening here? She thinks guys are boring and then she wants a man. Don’t you think women are so confusing…lol! Well no, they are just a way bit more sophisticated than men are. She wants a man but a man that can make her attracted to him. As yet, you don’t know where you are going wrong? Let me illuminate it upon you now.

The problem lies in her perception of you. You may be a good nice guy, you may be highly intelligent or you may be very sexual. But she COULDN’T see you properly. Why? It’s because you didn’t let her see your REAL personality. She could well notice that you were being a fake. On top of that, you were trying to be extraordinary (rephrase it as ‘abnormal’) to her and she couldn’t feel comfortable to you. And she kept on feeling weird about you and weird about herself as well. Is that what you want?

Remember,

REAL and HONEST = ATTRACTION

NORMAL = COMFORT and TRUST

If she’s not comfortable with you or trusts you deep inside, she won’t open herself up and if she doesn’t see the real honest you, she cannot get attracted to you. Nothing in the whole world can impress her other than your personality, nothing!

It’s highly important that you BE REAL and be NORMAL when talking to her. Then only she will consider you as a quality man.

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How Much Is TOO MUCH For Picking Up Women? (FOR ADVANCED PUAs)

This post is going to be succinct and thought provoking. Pay attention!

I was pondering over something today. Over a few days, I was just thinking what makes a woman attracted to you. Is your showing tail-wagging interest in her or creating a big ‘ice’ wall of china that blocks your penis from reaching her vagina? Okay, I know I’m getting a bit poetic here but just think about it, all you students of the art of pick up women, particularly those who have been studying it for over six months.

How are you going to attract 'em? Are you going to be that ‘cold and tough’ Clint Eastwood or the ‘easy and smiling’ Leonardo D’ Caprio of Titanic? I’ve always been in some confusion regarding this thing. To be very honest, I have a warm and friendly personality but I noticed something that when I acted arrogant and silent, I scored. And yes, this is the problem with quite a good many people, even with some quite advanced PUAs. They try to look hard and tough and don’t react, no facial expression that is. They think they are looking attractive yet no woman comes to them. This baffles them.

I’m going to clarify a few basic aspects on vibe and expression during the initial stages. But before that I want you to go and check out how the famous PUAs approach women in the links below:

Documentary of Pick Up Scene In UK

Alex Coulson - Pick Up video

David De Angelo on Picking Up Women in Bars and Clubs

A Random Video I found on the Web

You will see one common and IMPORTANT thing in all of them: They are RELAXED and they look POSITIVE. By the word ‘positive’, I mean they are oozing out a typical warm and friendly vibe.
Let’s dissect it and delve into it further. Let’s find out what attracts women. I’ve always thought hard on this specific topic. Who is that man that enlivens up the whole femininity inside a woman when he comes in front of that woman? Listen and remember it for the rest of your life, women feel ‘that thing’ when they see the right man, just as a man feels when he comes in front of the right woman. It’s because we are all sexual animals still and we have a primal part of the brain that still controls how we react to the opposite sex. We may excogitate the quantum theory (pardon me, all you physics buddies!) with the right side of your brain, but that’s not going to make you the ladies-man you want to be. It as yet still is out of your logical control!

Hence, we want to be THAT MAN. But how is that man? Is he ‘strong and silent’ type or the ‘easy and funny’ type? Two things I want to make clear: STRONG doesn’t mean he needs to be bulky and FUNNY doesn’t mean he needs to be goofy. Strong just means he gives off a tough, unresponsive vibe, while funny is just the upbeat lighthearted one.

And the secret to being THAT MAN is being in the optimum equilibrium between the both extreme ends.

Why? Let’s see it from a girl’s point of view. If you act too sexual and difficult right from the onset, she will feel a kind of pressure and she’ll not play along. But if you are too easy with her and she doesn’t feel any tension, she isn’t going to feel ‘that thing’ for you. She wants someone as will make her feel comfortable and protected when she’s with her but will keep her on the edge as well. She wants peace with a difficult character! So, the best way to approach her is to give her the hint of peace yet being a tension to her. She wants to keep working to solve that tension, that conflict and that she FALLS IN LOVE with you.

If you give her too much conflict and danger without any pleasure, she is going to be pushed away completely. If you give her too much pleasure right away without her asking for it, she won’t feel the need and desire for it and thus, there’s no attraction. Good salespersons know the secret, Pleasure with Pain. And that’s the essence of flirting (find articles on that here).

When you approach, smile and comply to make her feel comfortable but tease her and break rapport to make her feel the danger. When you are into the initial stages, give her signs that you like her (any forward motion creates tension) yet pull back, keeping the things at a comfortable though. Call her up and let her know how it is going with you, making her feel comfortable and pulling her in. Instantly, mix it up with talking about another girl (jealousy plotline) and an open hook (I hope you know the meaning of it!). Give to her but not too much. Keep her wanting more.

So, be warm and positive but not too much about her (pull her in, comfort) yet keep the relaxed, mysterious feel but not too much about you (push her away, let her come to you).

It’s the RIGHT BALANCE that matters.

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Ten MOST IMPORTANT Internet Dating Commandments for Beginners

The world is progressing and so is the dating style. Have you tried out the online dating services? Try them. They take less time yet give your better access to quality options. Just remember there are some online dating rules and you should abide by them. Let’s list out few basic rules of online dating:

1. A picture says a thousand words. Post pictures as many as possible. But keep them positive.


2. Ask questions and listen to others. Be genuinely curious. Don’t be the egomaniac.


3. You need to engage. You need to ask her the right questions. For that, you need to give a look at her profile. Don’t skip it.

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Two Fundamentals to Dating Younger Women

Well, when I’m talking of younger women, I’m basically talking of the girls between 16 and 22 years old. Don’t shy now, these girls really look luscious and make your mouths water (to be really grotesque!) as an older man wont to older women. By the way, someone over 24 years old is OLD!

But it’s wise to compass how these women or girls actually come from. You must understand that they have recently entered into their womanhood and they are coming to taste the nuisances of being a woman. What that means? They are being more aware of their female sexuality. They are enjoying the new experiences that are tagged along with the inception of the womanhood but at the same time, they are very apprehensive and compulsive. They are being sentient of the existence of the opposite sexes around and they are feeling a new kind of emotion around them (or, at least they hope to!). And here’s the problem: they are SEXUALLY ALIVE and they are NOT IN CONTROL of themselves.

To cut it short, they want someone adept enough in vibing with their sexually agitated selves and also catching on the reins of the moment. They want a sexually charged-up and powerful man!

If you want to date a young woman, the two basic characteristics that you need to show are as follows:

 Be FUN. Remember they are young and they are charged up. They are moving through their life at high speed and if you want to ride with them, you got to ride FAST! Many a times, guys come up with stupid nervous pickup lines, if at all, and even when they are into a conversation, they keep asking boring irrelevant questions. Never be boring. Being boring can kill of the spark that enlivens the bombasting sexual chemistry. Instead, try to tell some interesting stories, funny questions and engage in some interesting activities to keep the temperature up at all times.

 Be MYSTERIOUS. During this phase, a girl will naturally be more curious because they are coming to try the experiences all ANEW. She’s just so curious about everything! Let her be the detective and find out for herself who you are. It creates the sexual tension (they feed off this thing alone!) and makes them putty in your hands. Just don’t be clear and outright to her. Never show the down-faced ‘bottom card’ to her. If she knows everything about you, there’s no sexual tension and then again, no fun as well.

Keep in mind, at this age…It’s all about FUN and SEX!

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