Why Most Guys FAIL To Pick Up Women?

I’ve been with men who are natural with women and I’ve been with men who just sucked at women. And over the years, I’ve notice the similar patterns every now and then. This is kind of a secret code-breaker to art of seduction, to the art of picking up women.

Okay, let me first discuss what you normally do when you try to woo a woman. Of course, you bring her flowers and chocolates, send her regular text messages, etc, and other dating coaches do know about it and they try to help but in vain. See, learning what to do and what not to do isn’t going to make you PUA or a player, for God’s sake.

Being a PUA means you have mastered the social dynamics of male-female courtship INSIDE OUT. It’s as if you are learning kung-fu from someone; you have to ingrain it into your very soul. It’s gradual and it’s about Zen philosophy of life. Then you are a PUA.

No, I’m not going too much detail into that. Let’s just prune it short and tell you what the dating mistakes are. You wear the wrong clothes, you walk the wrong way, you talk the wrong way, you smile the wrong way, you eat the wrong way, you drive the wrong way, you touch her wrong way, and you…so on. Gosh! That includes just about everything. So, am I saying you have to remold yourself? Well, perhaps you have to. I’m not going to fake here.

Here’s why. Most of the quality girls will say that guys are so predictable and boring, and that they want a MAN. Now what’s happening here? She thinks guys are boring and then she wants a man. Don’t you think women are so confusing…lol! Well no, they are just a way bit more sophisticated than men are. She wants a man but a man that can make her attracted to him. As yet, you don’t know where you are going wrong? Let me illuminate it upon you now.

The problem lies in her perception of you. You may be a good nice guy, you may be highly intelligent or you may be very sexual. But she COULDN’T see you properly. Why? It’s because you didn’t let her see your REAL personality. She could well notice that you were being a fake. On top of that, you were trying to be extraordinary (rephrase it as ‘abnormal’) to her and she couldn’t feel comfortable to you. And she kept on feeling weird about you and weird about herself as well. Is that what you want?

Remember,

REAL and HONEST = ATTRACTION

NORMAL = COMFORT and TRUST

If she’s not comfortable with you or trusts you deep inside, she won’t open herself up and if she doesn’t see the real honest you, she cannot get attracted to you. Nothing in the whole world can impress her other than your personality, nothing!

It’s highly important that you BE REAL and be NORMAL when talking to her. Then only she will consider you as a quality man.

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