It’s easy to create one but is it really that easy to maintain that? NO. It can be a hell lot tough to keep the fire of a relationship alive over the time. And the situation is aggravated by the basic myths that most couples uphold when it comes to the relationship and their partners. Let’s see what these five basic myths that can actually lead to the ruining of a good relationship otherwise are.
Myth Number 1: Don’t think that your partner will know that what your needs and desires are without your communicating them to him. If you prefer a neck message when you come back from office, let your partner know of that. And this lack of communication result into frustration and anger, leading to the severance of the couple.
Myth Number 2: Wait for your partner to change, which will improve the situation. Instead, you should focus on changing yourself so that you become the ideal partner for her. It’s a wrong and a passive kind of thinking to just wait for the situation to better, take proper action towards it. It takes two fingers to ‘click’. But before you start working on myth no.2, check out myth no.3.
Myth Number 3: Devalue your needs and requirements and try to compromise. This is a biggie. Never ever do that. A relationship is best followed through when both the partners contribute equally to it. When you are suppressing your emotions and trying to focus on the needs and desires of your partner, what you are doing is you are not cutting off ‘one of the wheels’ of the relationship. And thus, the relationship becomes stilted, boring and frustrating for you. You don’t get what you want and you don’t know how to get that.
Myth Number 4: Both the partners or the spouses should contribute equal to the relationship doesn’t mean that both of them should invest fifty percent into it. Remember, it’s all about understanding and support and a cooperative attitude from both sides that keep the relationship going. Sometimes, one partner may get a bit busy and invest only twenty percent of his time, energy or resources, the other partner needs to make up for it. This is the way it works.
Myth Number 5: A perfect relationship is free of conflicts and confrontations. This is the biggest lie you can ever hear. The rule of thumb suggests is to have arguments and disagreements but in a non-disagreeable way. Don’t make it a public brawl. Just commit yourself to the relationship, to your partner, express your needs, wants and desires, what you want and what you don’t want out of the relationship.
Remember, a perfect relationship or marriage depends on effort from the sides of both the partners. A bit of understanding, clarity and mutual cooperation can keep that fire alive till you reach your platinum anniversary!
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