No Natural Game - It's Life!

Got "game" with women?

Can you "pick-up" women?

I've been known to criticize and make fun of certain elements of the PUA community, but I've really been "on my best behavior" lately and haven't said much of anything in a while about them.

So I'm sitting with a friend outside of Whole Foods in Venice Beach recently, just taking a break from life, and we started talking about these so-called "Natural Game" guys.

Really, we were talking about how interesting it is that they call it "natural game" in the first place. 

10 Steps to Tease Women

 Here's a funny value-building technique that I use
all the time.

       1) Look around the room for an ugly guy or a "loser".
He should be behind where your girl is sitting or standing.

       2) Lean closer to the woman and tell her, "There's
a guy behind you who's checking you out."

       3) Say something like, "Yes, that's him. The guy in the
funny shirt. He's been looking at you the whole time. Maybe
you should ask him out."

10 Surefire Ways To Intrigue Women Every Time

What do you do when you see a woman that you are attracted to? 

Do you run and hide? 

Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? 

Or, do you just stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say?

So, what is the right thing to do? You could just walk over and introduce yourself. The truth is that it is more about how you walk over than about what you actually say.

Why Some Men Have Trouble Being A Challenge

Here's something I've noticed about these guys:

       They don't understand the concept of "supply and
demand" at all!

       As a Natural, one of the most important things
to you should be attracting a continuous stream of friends
and women that you can hang out with - even if you're never
going to date them. 

What Are The 35 Laws of Subtle Attraction

From Jeffy (Real Social Dynamics) - 

So the linchpin of my teaching methodology is Attraction = Value.

 

My goal on program is to help the client understand this on a very 

deep level, and then learn easy ways to convey as much value as 

possible.

Being A Man - Phew!

Well, I came home yesterday afternoon, it was a beautiful day
outside, so I decided to take a walk around the equestrian center
and visit a few of the horses. While walking, I came across one of
the women who boards her horse at the equestrian center. She was
checking on her horse, and the man that she recently started to
date was with her.

Get Your Body Language Right

Most men have no clue on how to use body language to attract a woman.  

But,  learning how to use body language to attract women can prove to be a valuable resource if you really want to attract beautiful women.  

After all,  when you know how to use "body talk" to attract a woman,  you can create triggers that will make you almost irresistible to women.  If you can trigger her attraction,  then you have her wrapped up and you can direct how the situation will unfold.

Sure-Fire Ways to Create Instant Attraction

The determining factors that makes a woman want to be with you is
not as mysterious as "experts" make it out to be.  If you want to
make the most of your time in meeting (and ATTRACTING) women, I
HIGHLY suggest you check this out:

http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen/

There's nothing else quite like it.  We'll provide you with TOP
ADVICE for everything - starting from the most basic advice to the
highly advanced seduction techniques.

How To Turn A Friend To Be Your Girlfriend

The age-old answer to turn a friend to be something more? 

Variety. 

Variety is EVERYTHING and it rings true in ALL aspects of your 
interactions with women if you want to turn a friend to be your 
girlfriend. 

The more emotions she feels around you, the stronger an 
impression you'll make. The more interesting things she learns 
about you and tells you about herself, the more deeply she'll feel 
connected to you. 

How To Make Younger Women Chase You

Does he REALLY like me... or is he just playing games, like he 
does with ALL his girls? 

This is what should be running through her head while you tease 
and flirt with her. It makes her want to keep playing the game. 

Whenever she's with a guy like this, she'll want to look her best, 
and act her sexiest, in order to get the confirmation she craves.

The key is to NEVER give her total confirmation. 

How to Use 'Option Limitation' to Maximize Your Success with Women

Getting girls to feel an attraction for you - that isn't simply
based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car
you've got parked outside - can be really tricky.

After all, how are men supposed to know what each girl's looking
for without asking?

If you DID ask, you know your chances would be small, after all,
no girl wants a guy approaching her with needy questions - she
wants a confident man who somehow seems to know what she's
after and can give it to her.

Attracting Women In A Club: 3 Things To Note About Passive Value (by AP)

Passive Value is one of my most favorite aspects of the game. For those of you that don't know what I'm talking about, passive value is the value that you display before you being actively gaming a woman. This is the 360-degree display of your value that is developed beforehand (or faked in-field), making the amount of game you have to run significantly less.

 

It incorporates:

1. Subcommunication
2. Body Language
3. Fashion
4. Social Proof
5. Lifestyle
6. Status

Think about celebrities like Leonardo DiCaprio; all they have to do is exist in a club and women will be attracted to them. Why? Because they have proven their worth through their accomplishments (film, TV, music, etc.) and the popularity, wealth, and power that comes from those accomplishments is public knowledge, thereby making them (through their passive value) extremely attractive.

5 Dangerous Myths Guys Believe About Women

It's funny how many guys love to believe certain myths that
have been spoon-feed to them by the media.

The truth is there are a large number of misconceptions men have 
about what women find attractive and how they view dating. What's 
bad about these myths is they limit the success of men. If you 
believe in them, then you're NOT going to date the kind of 
women you deserve.

You Need Money or Good Looks To Get Beautiful Women

Most men believe all it takes is money or good looks to attract women. You see it all the times in Hollywood movies where the rich guy is walking into restaurants with a gorgeous woman besides him. Other times when you're walking down the street you see a male model walking with a stunner. All these images reinforce the belief that you need money or good looks to get women.

Get TEN TIMES More Attractive to Women Instantly

Want to know how to make yourself instantly more attractive to
women?

It's simple: get rid of your attraction killing habits.  Many
times a man can make himself ten times more attractive by stopping
certain things instead of doing certain things.

What male behaviors do women find unattractive?  Here's a quick
list:

Do You Have to Be Good Looking to Attract Women?

There is a false notion circulating around the world - you have to be good looking to attract women. This is so far from the truth. In short, you don't have to be good-looking to attract women. You just have to be a MAN. Don't worry if you don't get what I am saying. In this post, I am going to explain on this very fact. 

What does good looking mean in the first place? 

From dictionary.com

- of good or attractive appearance; handsome or beautiful

Well, they used the word 'attractive'. And since it is all about attracting women, you have to be attractive, in other words, good-looking, duh. Right? Wrong.

Good-looking means handsome and beautiful, but NOT attractive.

And that is not the be-all and end-all in attracting women.

Be BAD, Be NICE

Now, I have been in the field for quite some time and I’ve been forced to see the various probabilities of the social dynamics. I am a bit of a geek and I know my language does prove that. I write so complicated!

Anyway, just now I returned from a quick rendezvous and I discovered something. What really does suck a woman towards you? That’s your PERSONALITY. And how your personality should be? It should be both BAD and GOOD.

Let me expound that a bit.

When you first approach a woman or you’re to create the first impression, you MUST always be good, not nice though. Any girl, whether good or bad, will never even give a man with insolent idiotic attitude a second thought. So, that shouldn’t be your first impression. And there’s another plus point in that. Why? If you start with being nice, she is more likely to compel to respond positively. Now, you can unleash that bad boy weapon. She will find the new side to your character interesting. And in the later stages during the deep connection, when you turn a bit soft and nice with her, that’s just natural to her and she likes it. So, she finds that ATTRACTIVE balance in you.

If you can start with flirting as well as make her feel safe and comfortable, then you are awesome. But if you don’t know how to flirt when you approach her, just go in to meet her and be her friend. And when she is comfortable, you should start being flirtatious and BAD.

Note: If you are flirtatious and act NICE, she will be flattered but not feel that tweak of tension inside her. It’s when she can’t control you and you are really HARD TO GET that she starts succumbing to your sexuality.

Do FLIRT but also play HARD TO GET, with Intrigue and Innuendos!

Then, eventually you will be shifting to the normal ‘rapport’ or connection building stage. Now, this stage is actually initiated by the girl who complies with your qualifications, shows interest and tries to come close to you. At this stage, turn into a NICE GUY without giving up that ‘hard to get’ part completely. Qualify her, care about her, express yourself, have fun and whenever she does comply to you or comes up with some tests, disqualify her and bring back the BAD BOY. Only this time, you shouldn’t flirt. Let her work for you.

At this deep rapport stage, she should do whatever you want her to and you reward her by taking care of her.

You should appreciate her and reward her with LOVE.

In short, start with the BAD BOY and end into a GOOD BOY.

And what's the definition of good boy and bad boy?

Good Boy - Dependable, Grounded
Bad Boy - Unpredictable, Adventurous

But before you actually rush out to run the game on the first girl you find in the street nearby, you got to listen to the MOST IMPORTANT DATING ADVICE here.

You have got to SHOW YOUR INTEREST in the girl. It’s not like ‘so you are hot. I don’t care about you’ or ‘oh my god, you are so hot and I don’t think I deserve you’ but more in the lines of ‘You are hot, I Like it and I deserve you’. That’s the essence of Direct Game

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New-Age Attraction Model - Learn The Basis of Dating and Picking Up Women

Okay, before I start, I want to state something here. I believe in it and my personal experience with the girls that I have met and dated all over has taught me so.

Women LOVE to be loved and desired by men, provided that the men do it RIGHT. This turns women on and builds the right sexual chemistry. Unless you bring the vibe, there can be no chemistry between you two.

But expressing your sexual interest in the wrong manner, that is, laying out your cards naively won’t get you laid. Why? It’s because you fall into the NICE GUY category. What does a “nice guy” means? I don’t know what other PUAs or dating coaches would normally have to say about it but according to me, a NICE GUY is someone who goes a step further than just being a “gentleman”.

Some typical characteristics of a “nice guy”:

•   He agrees to everything she says and does.
•   He is always available to her.
•  He acts submissive and fawning to the girl.
•  He never shows that he might have sexual interest in the girl, that is, he rejects himself as a man.
• He puts the girl in the front and stays in the back.
• He clings on to the approval of the girl too much.

Now these are just some of the most common and basic characteristics of the “nice guy”. And this pisses off the women big time. Being a NICE GUY never helps!

But we don’t want to be a jerk either, do we? For someone like me, it really feels manipulative and fake as well. I never condoned being a Jerk just to get women in my life.

And here’s an attraction model that shows you how to attract women without being a jerk.

First of all, let’s know the dictionary definitions:

Flirt
-verb (without an object)

1. Make playful romantic or sexual passes
2. Dally or trifle with something
3. Move abruptly or jerkily

Tease
- verb (with an object)

     1.       To annoy or irritate someone.

     2.       To playful banter on someone.

     3.       To arouse desire or curiosity without providing satisfaction.

I’m a very analytical kind of guy, and find it really easy to break complex combinations into simple parts and then rearrange them according to my convenience and preference.

You must have got several pick up women models, haven’t you? Some most popular ones are below:

Meet > Attract > Connect > Seduce (Mystery)

Comfort > Attraction > Qualification > Sexual Escalation (AFC Adam)

Rapport > Seduction (Vin Di Carlo)

Seduction > Close (Gunwitch)

But is it that easy? No, it never was and it never is.

Here what I’m presenting to you is just a model of how to create attraction and build the necessary sexual chemistry. According to me, unless these two things are there right from the start or as soon as is possible, the whole pickup process come falling down.

I have normally studied under many dating coaches and PUAs. Some say that you should assume attraction and then just focus on rapport and escalation. Then again, some suggest that you should always build attraction right in the beginning, if her value is higher than yours is. But how can you possibly show higher value if you are really higher value?

That’s your body language and attitude. This show how strong a reality you have, and that tells what might be your lifestyle and social value.

Yes, that’s the very thing that creates attraction. That’s called physical attraction.

Next how does a woman want you to go about closing the deal with her or rather what makes her agree to closing the deal with you?

Know the basic here: She closes the deal when she feels the sexual attraction towards you and she knows you can satisfy her needs and desires. What might be her desire by the way? Remember one thing… she wants a better life, whether you are a better provider, protector, seducer or entertainer. She just wants you to add value to her life, and make it better than it already is.

So how can you add value to her life?

1.       By satisfying her SEXUALLY

2.       By satisfying her EMOTIONALLY

3.       By satisfying her LOGICALLY

Now, let’s say you are a good lover. What makes you a good lover? You are a good lover when you connect with her and can satisfy her carnal desires. So, you satisfy her physically and emotionally both. You know what, that’s enough for her to choose you and stick to you as your partner. It’s very rare when you get someone like that.

Now, the thing is that sexual tension can be created by generally two ways:

1.       Express sexual interest in her – Flirt with her

2.       Bust on her and give her a hard time – Tease her

3.       Share interesting personal experiences – Tell Stories

Why you tease? Teasing makes her laugh, creates challenge, shows sense of humor (a social value factor) and keeps her interest or attention. Why you flirt? Flirting establishes the chemistry between you two and makes her see in sexual light.

But your expressing sexual interest in her is going to make her sexually attracted to you? Your busting on her and giving her a hard time can create sexual chemistry between you two? No, if you bust on her right away, it might seem as you’re coming on too strong on her. If you seem submissive and indicate your sexual interest, you might come off as just another boy who lives and dies for her.

So, yes at the very start, you don’t want to come on too strong but then again, you don’t want to be stagnant at a place too long too. Neither “too much, too soon” nor “too late” is good for the pickup process.

Okay, let's break the whole pickup women process step-by-step bits.

You approach the girl. You either do it direct or indirect, according to your preference. If you go indirect and have the vibe of direct approach, you show that you are dishonest and lack confidence. She is going to know why you opened her in the first place. I believe that indirect approach needs intense amount of expertise and also the right situation to result into fruition. Personally, I prefer direct approach. Let them know why I'm there.

And I want to keep in mind one thing. Right from the approach, you are building your social value in her eyes. With your body language, attitude, ability to withhold social pressure, your fashion sense and your voice...all helps in building in your social value.

The very first thing you need to establish is the Hook Point. This is the point when she accepts you and opens herself up to you. How do you reach the hook point? Simple, by asking a few questions about her and telling a few things about yourself. You tell DHV yet funny stories about yourself and you elicit normal information her to see if she complies with that. What you are doing here is you are qualifying her, you are showing that you are socially valuable and acceptable (of course, you are somewhat interesting) and you are creating that sense of trust and comfort with an absolute stranger. At this point, she is only thinking, "nice person he is", not necessarily that she has to fuck you tonight.

Now, when she opens herself up, the next step is to push up her heart beat rate and bring in the sexual chemistry.  A bit of tension is what makes you a lover. Remember Enrique Iglesias' line "...Sweetest Pleasure is Pain..." from the song "I love to see you cry". This is the stage of Attraction. Not only do you make it hard for her a bit, that is, push her a bit, you get the chance to pull her in and you do that by flirting with her (passing romantic gestures to her). And I name it the FlirTease Theory of Attraction. What you do basically is you Flirt and you Tease! Remember the dictionary definitions of  Flirting and Teasing. You disagree with her at times and break rapport. Attraction is nothing but making her to get her validation back or gain rapport once again.

Remember, you just MAKE HER FEEL that weird feeling of interest, curiosity and sexuality. A bit of hard time (though you should be friendly but still out of reach), complete non-neediness, heaps of social value and sexual vibe in the air. She will start to give you signals that she wants to get close to you and wants to know you better, and that's the time for deep rapport. Challenging her doesn't mean that you have to stay aloof or act rude. You should be positive yet just not under control. Women love what they can't have easily. Bad Boy Attitude!

Rule of Thumb: She may not work for you...You have to FORCE HER to do so.

But here’s a thing to understand, for the newbies. More often, men think that this whole pickup thing works in a linear pattern. But no, it doesn’t. It’s not as if you create comfort and then stop… you create attraction and then stop…

No, it actually works in a layer pattern. You start with one layer and keep on putting layer over layers, so that ultimately you climb up to your goal. Was that a good analogy?

When you approach the woman, you just create a sense of trust and comfort in her. You add sexual tension and interest later on and so forth.

But the question is how do you normally use ball busting and flirtation? Yes, I know what you are thinking right now. One thing, getting to know each other creates that essential rapport, and rapport gets you  the girl in the end, not some superficial attraction that you built with her. Then are just to steer and control the interaction in the right direction. They are like spices.

Suppose you continuously bust on her, she might think you are crazy. If you keep on acting amorous and passing romantic gestures to her, she might get bored of it and it will lose its ability of creating the necessary tension. If you are telling one story after another, you are giving her no chance to speak, bum. Let her speak and learn about her. She must feel like "he really understands me...we connect so well".

The idea is to get deep into her, emotionally into her and occupy her mind and heart. That’s making her fall in love. And for that, you need to listen to her. You elicit her values, her beliefs, her passions and give feedback to it. You are qualifying and connecting with her in other words. But why would she qualify herself to you? Deep rapport is not so easy.

Let’s say after you approach, you just tell her one story and try to elicit information from her. She might not open up instantly. But, after some trust and comfort is created with some safe and interesting (DHV) interaction, she opens up.  Now, she feels interested about you. Why? It’s because you seem like you can add value to her life. Then, you qualify her lightly and ask her about herself. You both start getting to know each other. Remember, it's not that deep yet. To get deep into her, you got to enter her deep reality and command it. You start creating the sexual tension, flirting with her, teasing with her and also keeping the interest level intact with your DHV storytelling, and in the mean time, start eliciting values and opinion from her.

At the initial stages, she will normally be enjoying you as a company. But remember, she is feeling the attraction at the moment. It’s superficial attraction. But she doesn't feel a deep connection with you. And you CANNOT make her feel that deep connection with you as well, THAT SOON. You will be acting like a TRY-HARD and that ruins everything that you worked on so far. Remember, never push it. At this moment, she is not "emotionally" dependent on you and doesn't seek your approval as well, but she feels like she's opening up to you.

Note: How do you judge the connection if it is light or deep? It’s the amount she needs to qualify. Is it just her last grades in school? Or is it her whole family background that is going to be tested here? She should QUALIFY herself and as a reward, you CONNECT to her and form a relationship.

At this point, you can either work on the sexual attraction, and can escalate it to any of the physical close, if you think she’s that independent and adventurous herself. This is when you just want to get laid.

But let’s say you are running a day game and the logistics are against you so that you cannot escalate her to the physical level, so what do you do? You build some quick connection with her, that is, show her that you two have some kind of rapport and comfort, and then follow it up later on.

But even, when the girl seems adventurous and up for a quickie, it is always good to create some connection before you make your final move, because that gives you the chance to get a golden egg everyday and not only for one day.

How do you judge the connection if it is light or deep? It’s the amount she needs to qualify. Is it just her last grades in school? Or is it her whole family background that is going to be tested here? She should QUALIFY herself and as a reward, you CONNECT to her and form a relationship. How do you make sure that she qualifies herself and you can take the interaction forward? Tease her, not when she is qualifying herself but on some little flaws that only makes it CHALLENGING her status (not turning her off though), flirt with her that creates the right sexual chemistry for the interaction to move forward to the romantic level, and sharing DHV personal experiences that tells her that you are of her social status.

When you are doing some light comfort and trust session in the beginning, you can and should always be bringing the sexual tension as soon as you can, as soon as you find she is opening up to you and getting comfortable with you. You should start giving her a bit of a hard time and let her work for you a bit. Let her qualify herself to you.

And you slowly lead the interaction towards a more emotional level. Share your emotional sides, learn about her deep values, beliefs and opinions, compliment her and connect with her. You two are relating! That's called deep rapport.

Some questions for deep rapport:

Have you ever been in love?
How do you define ?
What is the three best things about you?
What is the three worst things about you?
What is that one thing you cannot say NO to?
What is the worst moment of your life?
What is the best moment of your life?
..etc.

You see, all of them are not just normal questions that you ask to a stranger, but you ask this to someone, you  have interacted with for quite some time and you have established that comfort and trust with that person. The trick to establish deep rapport is just chill and GO DEEP. Avoid introductory questions (mainly for creating trust and comfort) or everyday normal conversations (again for comfort and trust), focus on her, listen to her, show her real interest (she has earned it, remember) and try to understand her. You cannot directly come to this stage too soon. If you do, you are being a try-hard. Just give it some time. For that time being, you keep up the tension and keep creating enough comfort and trust with her. She'll let you know when the time has come.

And once, you she qualifies herself and you move on to a more physical level, you don’t make it so hard for her anymore. Or she will lose her interest in you. If you are too easy to seduce, she loses interest. If you are too hard to seduce, she loses interest. And you can play hard to get when she qualifies herself and you are moving onto the physical level. And remember, when she starts responding positively, you tone down busting on her (it should only be done for FUN and ENJOYMENT to keep the temperature up, she knows that you are kidding with her) or even stop flirt with her, and move it in the forward direction, that is, help her seduce you. Flirting is a kind of striking up her sexual excitation, when her heart races faster and she feels something for you. She sees yours sexuality and confidence, and also gets into the sexual mood. But when she’s qualifying, if you flirt, she will get distracted from the mode she’s in, that is, trying to win you over. Rather just qualify her, have fun (keep the temperature high), and pull her in at times. You don’t need to flirt when the sexual chemistry is already there. You can just express your sexual interest in her then. That’s not flirting, that’s rewarding her. Yes, that’s pulling her in and showing her that you approve her. And that keeps the momentum high. It’s not playful but now, you are being serious about it. If she doesn't qualify at some point, you can bust on her back and push her down once again.

Remember, seduction is nothing but pulling her in, rewarding her when she qualifies. If she doesn’t qualify herself or tries to seduce you, it’s no use trying to run any seductive routine on her. You can be a try hard but try hard means you have to really TRY HARD sometimes, pursue her for years and then get any results.

If you are obsessed with her and cannot live without her, that is definitely one of the routes to go but why not choose an easier way-out?

So, to end it,

The model here that we have spoken about is:

1.   Meet Women (either direct or indirect)
2.     Build Social Value, Create Comfort and Trust
3.  Reach Hook Point
4.  Bring Conflict/Tension, Create the Sexual Chemistry
5.     Establish Deep Rapport
6.  Seduce The Woman
7.  Reinforce Comfort and Trust
8.  Close the Deal

To simplify it even further,

Meeting > Familiarity (A little Comfort) > Sexual Tension > Deep Rapport > Seduction

That’s it.

But before we end, let me tell you one thing. Girls love you when you make her feel. She wants you to challenge her, she wants you to be sexual with her, she wants you to be serious and she wants you to playful. Tease her (challenge her), flirt with her (turn her on), be playful and establish deep rapport...do it all in the right proportion, and the girl would be yours!

Formula for you: Comfort + Playful (challenges her, pushes her away) + Deep Rapport (connects and pulls her in)  = Seduction

Go use it and tell me how you feel about it.

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How to Attract a Woman – Create that Sexual Chemistry

No, I’m not going to delineate out any quick fix PUA technique here. But rather I would rant on why the attraction tactics work on women? In short, I would be talking about the ATTRACTIVE MAN that women crave for.

What do women want from men? What do you think they want from you?

Many men think that if you worship them or put them up on a pedestal, they will start to like you. Now is this true? NEVER further from it! Women are flattered when you praise them and you celebrate them, but they don’t feel that elusive feeling, they so want to feel from a man. It’s more commonly called the sexual chemistry.

What creates that sexual chemistry? Remember that this sexual chemistry is what makes the bond, the relationship between you and the woman an everlasting one.

And how is that sexual chemistry created between the two individuals?

First of all, one thing needs to be reinforced and that is, you MUST show interest in the woman. Why? If she’s a hot woman, she will have guys approaching her and hitting on her every now and then. Now, just imagine the situation. If you were an average looking guy, not that rich or whatever, would she ever feel the pulse to come approach you. Never! She might give you a look BUT she will forget you nonetheless in a moment. You might say that you can approach her indirect. But is that really possible every time? No, it’s not. It’s because unless the two of you are likely to place yourself near each other by chance, you cannot run an indirect game. And placing yourself near her might not be that easy every time.

A little miss on your part and she’ll know what you want from her. That instantly signals that you don’t have confidence and aggressiveness inside you to match her level.

And here comes the biggie. Unless you throw in some sexuality into the conversation, she won’t feel that tension inside her. The vibe isn’t going to pop up just like that. She will not do anything. You got to make the move. You have to show her that you are confident enough to lead her. You got to take pains to create it on your own. Your showing of sexual interest in her just brings that much-needed sexual feel into the interaction.

But just expressing your romantic desire for her is enough? No. She has got thousands of guys showing romantic interest to her every day. She wants her man to be sexual of course, but she wants a MAN before that. And by man, I mean the attractive man women dream about. We are talking about the Don Juan, the famous lover.

A woman wants her man to dominate her, lead her and protect her. And for this reason, women want their man to be physically bigger than they are. They want their man to be overpowering, leading and powerful. Her man cannot be scared by her. Her man should enter her reality and overwhelm it. She wants to be guided by his reality. She wants to be a part of HIS REALITY. He should suck her into his reality. It’s about the confidence, or like they say, cockiness that matters.

You are SO secure of yourself that you make her feel secure in turn. She wants SECURITY from her man. She wants to let her hair down and depend on her man.

How can you show that level of confidence and security to her? Enter her reality and overmaster it! It’s that simple. But would she be accepting? You have to make it acceptable. You have to make it SOCIALLY GRACEFUL and ACCEPTABLE, yet send her the information that you are the MAN. You dominate over her and that you want her to be your woman and enter your reality.

Be Strong! And I’m not talking about physical strength, but INNER STRENGTH. Tease her, bust on her and just playfully dominate over her reality. Show her that you can lead and protect her. You are confident enough to be there for her in times of need. It’s just displaying your male sexuality. It’s called Flirting.

What does flirting mean? It involves showing your sexual worthiness and signaling your sexual interest towards the member of the opposite sex. Flirting is the most powerful way of creating that sexual chemistry with your woman.

So, to sum it up, how do you create sexual chemistry? Show sexual interest in a sexually attractive way!

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The Ultimate Reason why you FAIL to Attract Women (for advanced PUAs)

You have been learning the picking up women thingy for quite some time, coping to adjust to the different tactics and tricks told to you by the other senior dating coaches and pick-up artists. But the problem is that when someone advises you not to show interest, someone else tells you to go up there and directly compliment the girl. Someone asks you not to call before three days whereas someone tells you not to wait so much. All of them behests you to take action and action you will take, but how? You are just so confused! You feel stuffed and you are not sure which one’s going to work.

This is just like the situation in sales, when the customer is overwhelmed with so many choices that they don’t purchase anything at last, because their thought process is clouded and they are scared away. This is the case with many budding PUAs, who just don’t know what to do. They are not clear with themselves. How on earth can they be clear about social dynamics and women then? This article strives towards that. It clarifies about what you really need and how you are gonna get there.

So, what’s the most important thing when it comes to picking up women? Why do you fail to attract them? It’s not because of your neediness, it’s not because you were not fun enough, it’s not because you were not mystery enough, but because you DON’T think you deserve that woman.

Just think about it. Why would you try to be fun, in the first place? You want to attract women, and if you NEED to be fun to attract women, you are being needy. Why are trying to be mysterious? It’s not because it’s your style but you have been told that you can get girls this way, again that neediness. Ok, here’s the biggie. You don’t want to be needy and you try hard for that. Why? You NEED to gain her attention and approval, and that’s why you shouldn’t be needy. Quite paradoxical, isn’t it? Yes, it is.

Now, the question is where does the neediness comes from…it comes from you doubting yourself. Whether you are being jealous, you are being nervous or you are just trying to be smart, you DOUBT yourself. You doubt your identity and you don’t have confidence. You are a wannabe! And you know how girls hate wannabes. They want to feel that solid inner strength. They want you to come from that unshakeable reality. You are secure of yourself, your identity, your very existence. This makes the girl attracted to you.

Remember, when you are approaching or you are interacting with that hottie, you should never doubt that she’s not gonna like you. You have solid looks, you have solid personality, you have an interesting lifestyle and you have solid future. If you are not sure of the looks, start taking fashion and grooming sessions, you should feel good about yourself. For personality improvement, take personality improvement classes or just idolize someone and emulate him. Work on your future, study hard, get a job and secure your future.

Ask yourself the following questions:

**Will she want me?

**Can she fall in love with me?

**If so, why would she ever fall in love with you?

You need to be confident on your value, a high sense of self-worth. It’s not about being rude or being angry. It’s just knowing how worthy you are.

Remember, she won’t love you because you love her. She will love you because of the person you are. Now, what kind of person you are? I always had a limiting belief that a woman always hankers after money, after good looks. They are initially attracted by money or looks. But I later realized they don’t feel ‘that thing’. In other words, they are not attracted to looks and money. They are attracted to the feeling you generate in them. And that comes from your personality that overshadows your looks and money and holds the key to the power of these latter two factors. In fact, most rich men and handsome men are very confident of themselves and that gives a positive feeling to the women around them. It’s all in the way you carry yourself. It’s all in how you make her feel, the way she feels when she’s with you.

You need to believe that you are a complete 10! This feeling of being a ten is what makes you desirable in the eyes of another ten. She knows that you are her equal and she get’s attracted to you. As most of the dating gurus and PUAs will assert, it’s all value. You must always have equal or more value than that of a woman.

So, I believe you need not try to be fun, you need not try to be non-needy, you need not try to be alpha…you just have to start working on yourself. You need to know and value yourself. That self-confidence will shine on her. Even if you feel a little nervous when making the move, just know that she’s your equal and you deserve her. The question is whether she deserves you or not.

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