Do you run and hide?
Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet?
Or, do you just stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say?
So, what is the right thing to do? You could just walk over and introduce yourself. The truth is that it is more about how you walk over than about what you actually say.
When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They also make the mistake of believing that there is one magic line that will work in all situations.
They believe that if they find that right magic line, rehearse it, and deliver it properly, that girls will become instantly attracted to them.
Most of what you say is irrelevant. It is all about the confidence you display when approaching a woman.
Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:
1) Observe Something: When approaching a woman, make a comment about something you observe in the environment. For example, if a woman at the grocery store is ordering a tuna sandwich, ask her if the tuna there is good.
This comes off as natural, and is relevant to what you are doing. There is always something interesting on which to comment... you just need to sharpen your observation skills.
2) Smile: Smile when you approach a woman. This will show her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will make her feel good.
It puts her at ease and creates openness in the interaction.
3) Do Not Hesitate: If you hesitate in your approach, this sends information to a woman that you are not feeling confident. That is an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a quick period of time (apply the "3 second rule").
This sends the message that you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it. Ask any woman if she finds this sexy, and I am sure you will hear a big YES.
4) Body Language: If when you approach a woman you are hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself . . . this makes you dead in the water before you even begin.
Walk over to women standing up straight, have your shoulders back and your chest out, and utilize a firm yet relaxed walk.
5) The Speed Of Your Approach: When you walk too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.
6) Eye Contact: Never be the first one to break eye contact when you approach a woman. If you do, it sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching her.
With practice, this can be mastered. When you look at her using strong eye contact, she won't know why but she will feel more drawn to you.
7) Listen: Make sure you pay careful attention to what a woman says. Do not have your responses pre-thought out. If you are in the moment, she will sense it and you can respond appropriately. Women love a man who is paying attention to the details of what she has said.
All great conversations are based on the power of listening.
If you start throwing random words out there, she will lose interest really fast.
8) Do Not Fidget: If you fidget after you've approached a woman, this is distracting and shows that you are uncomfortable. If you communicate to a woman that you are uncomfortable, she will become uncomfortable and will close up.
Practice being aware of your movements, and pay attention to what communicates comfort and confidence.
9) The Tone Of Your Voice: The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching a woman using a light and playful tone of voice is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone accusing her of something (e.g., "I hope you saved some Tuna for me") and then shoot her a smile to let her know that you were really joking.
Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends, and notice the different reactions that you get when you say the exact same thing using various tones and fluctuations.
10) Leaning: Men who lean in when they talk to a woman often makes them feel crowded. When you speak to a woman, slightly lean away from her. This lets her know that you respect her space and boundaries, as well as shows her you are comfortable with yourself.
Here is an added bonus:
Be The Selector: Most men approach a women and send the message that they hope that she will choose him. This puts you beneath her on a psychological level and she will feel it(Yes, this is not attractive).
Send the message that you are a man who is worth getting to know.
If she ends up having the kind of spirit that you like, you would then be willing to let her get to know you better.
This subtle difference sends a powerfully different message.
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