Sexual Chemistry with Women…Redefined

You know what I have found over the years of observing and learning from the masters in the “game”. I’ve seen that they do so LESS yet go away with the girl. They are never trying hard or going over the top to impress the woman. They DO THE MINIMUM but they do it RIGHT. That’s their secret!

 When you first approach a woman, if she accepts your approach, it means she is ready to move along with you. She somewhat likes you. That’s the basic thing that the newbies don’t seem to understand. They think they have to demonstrate High Value but when the case is that they should just NOT say or do anything that makes the girl feel that you don’t have much social value or you are a low status man.

Get over the introductory phase as soon as you can because that’s a deterrent to the forward motion of your game, and assume rapport. Just behave as if you know her for years and let her be comfortable! You don’t have to do anything special. Just BE NORMAL and have a good time, give yourselves some time to connect for God’s sake. Remember the GOLDEN RULE OF SEDUCTION: She feels what you feel.

But when she opens up to you and becomes quite comfortable, if you just spend some good time with her, you are a nice person to her. She likes you. But does she feel that “thing” for you? NO, NEVER. That’s because there’s no tension in the air. Tension doesn't come when you say that her eyes are very beautiful, that would make her feel good and she will know that you like her too. But will that create any sexual tension? No, because you are making it clear in the first place and clear outright statements don’t build tension, and secondly, if she is beautiful, she must have heard this line a thousand times before.

And thus, to create that mysterious sexual chemistry, you need to FLIRT. What is flirting by the way? Flirting tells her that you like her and you pay special attention to her, simple as that. You can do it by being cheeky (for fun) or you can do it by your BEHAVIOR and ATTITUDE (with sexual intent). When you say something that pushes her away yet pulls her in with your demeanor, that’s being cheeky. If you are able to convey that vibe that signals to her that you are interested in her, WITHOUT being overt, then also she feels that rush. And the latter one is Real Flirting, because it creates that serious sexual chemistry with you being the man and her being the woman. The Fun Flirting is more like two individuals, just engaged in naughty fun, that's it. At the end of the day, she will think, "He was a cute guy". But in real sexual flirting, she feels that tension that is the hallmark of quality seduction. But, whichever way you flirt, keep that 'I am the ONE' feel to it...strong confident signal of attraction!

Rule of Thumb: Flirting is all about subcommunication.

But is sexual tension built with just this expression of sexual interest? Is sexual flirting only expressing your interest in her? No, this is just the first step. Once you convince her that you like her romantically or sexually (not platonically), steal her frame. Make her feel that she MIGHT BE wrong. Vin Di Carlo says that you should build the anticipation, without making overt physical moves, only incidental ones and even if you do, just play with it a bit. He says that you should also use a lot of sexual innuendos and double entendres, but no explicit sexual expression (though sometimes it is acceptable, when romantically and artistically done). This is where she feels that conflict in her mind and she feels excited as well. This is called sexual tension, which is basically the anticipation of something that makes the whole thing more exciting.

Remember, if you normally TEASE her or MOCK her (as I do...I'm a very playful character), she will have fun but when you add that sex-factor to that, when she knows that you are sexually interested in her, this increase the sexual tension even more, and builds up the sexual chemistry. Even if you act a little disinterested or bring a break in the aroused state, it creates a dissonance in her mind and her whole sexual being is charged up to a new level. When the sexual charge is there, she will either look to create rapport and comfort with you, or just glow in the seductive force. If she seeks rapport, you can break it a bit to ante up the tension. If she's wanting more sexual advances from you, cut on the sexual vibe a bit. These breaks will drive her crazy. So, convey your sexual energy yet play with it a bit. It is a game after all!

If you keep on being cheeky day after day or show her that you like her with your actions continuously, she goes into the mode of screening once again. She knows that you like her, whether you are being cheeky or subtle with your actions, she has you "solved" and it depends on her if she wants to choose you or not. There is that sexual element in the air, that’s true. But keeping up that sexual vibe is hard because you need to continuously prove your social worth to her along with indicating your sexual interest in her. It can be done even if you shower her with compliments, flowers or chocolates, and have fun with her. She will know that you made the move and she accepted you.

But women find men who are a CHALLENGE irresistible. And when you add that sexual feeling to it, they just can’t get over him. He introduces that sexual vibe in the air but still stays out of reach. That’s makes the women chase him.

How does he do that? He indicates sexual interest through his playfulness or subtle actions, but just when the girl feels that he is interested in her, he emotionally pushes her away and steals her frame. He makes her feel that she might not be right after all. When she feels like, ‘Does he love me?’ in her mind, you are being that irresistible man. She will come for you.

But if you give yourself up fully, that will ruin the tension built up over the time. What you have to do is just feel the cat-string theory. You throw the string but you make it work the string. Then give some more and then take it away, and again let it work for the string. The process is repeated until you two are so close that you can GO DIRECT on her. She will accept it. It continues until the later Deep Rapport phase.

Remember DON’T TRY for rapport. Just let it roll in its own whim. Be the Normal Alpha Guy. The ultimate mistake in seduction is to force it. Never do it.

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