This post is going to be very short yet it will be of HIGH VALUE.
Where do you start? You APPROACH her, and you approach her DIRECT. If she is beautiful, she knows why you are there and if you can’t pull off the indirect approach with 100 percent precision, it will backfire. But even if you fumble in your direct approach, it shows that you have the balls to be a MAN and she will appreciate it, though that doesn’t necessarily impress the woman.
Right after you approach, DON’T be the jerk, going strong on her. You don’t want to freak her out. Just play it cool and meet her. Don’t hit on her right away. You felt like knowing more about her and that’s why you are there. Yes, you are showing interest but you are neither being a chump nor being a scary weird person round the corner. You are just that cute person who approached her.
Let her open up. When she opens up, you got to proceed from a formal level to a more informal level. Be a little fun… when you see you two are normally close, and that she is quite informal with you, gradually bring in the sexual vibe in the air. How the hell are you going to create that sexual tension? It’s always through flirting. Flirting is more of a push-pull kind of thing. You show tentative interest. She feels it but cannot be sure about it. When you show your sexuality and create that sexual atmosphere, you don’t give her a chance to see you just as a friend. The level of rapport decides how much sexual you can be with her.
From this moment onwards, you just focus on building rapport and upping the ante of sexual vibe/sexual tension. How? Flirt sometimes playfully and sometimes, just show her genuine sexual interest. What is sexual chemistry at the end of the day? Sexual chemistry is when there’s sexual feel in the air. If you flirt and she flirts back, there’s the chemistry. If you flirt and she doesn’t respond, the chemistry is yet not there. You have to try some other way or she might not be just open yet. Build some more rapport and connection and then, again repeat. Rinse, Repeat!
Rapport -> Flirt -> Rapport -> Flirt
Too much rapport without seduction will make you a friend. Too much seduction without rapport and comfort will scare her away.
At one point, you will be so close that you will just BE OUTRIGHT with your desire about her. She will WANT that. But that is in the later stages of the interaction.
Always remember, it’s all about subcommunication and emotional subtext that you should be worried about.
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