Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. It’s a fact that men and women are different and that extends to achieving sexual pleasure as well. Take for instance the topic of orgasms; men reach their climax sooner than women. Period.
Unfortunately, since the reasons WHY a woman does not reach an orgasm as fast as a man are not explored, what happens is that the sexual relationship generally develops into one where reaching her orgasm is not even an objective!
Society has a lot to do with this. It seems that women, in general, have been raised with the mentality that when it comes to sex, his orgasm is the goal. As for her, it’s ok; it’s natural that she doesn’t reach an orgasm. And while couples easily accept this, what most people don’t realize is that a woman not reaching her orgasm is actually the root of MANY relationship problems.
Relationship Problems Caused by Your Partner Not Reaching an Orgasm
Sexual Frustration. Imagine if you have sex with your partner and you’re never given the chance to reach your climax. That’s a dreadful thought, isn’t it? You probably wouldn’t even call it ‘having sex’ at all. Think of all that frustration inside you that just grows after each time you have sex. Well, it’s the same for women!
Even though it would take longer for women to reach the point of ‘sexual frustration’, they will reach it one way or the other. And this frustration will manifest itself in many different areas in your relationship.
Resentment. You can’t blame women for wanting what they see as an obviously great and pleasurable experience for you. If you don’t take the time to learn how to bring her to an orgasm, then she will soon begin to resent your ‘selfishness’ in bed. After all, why should you have all the fun? You may find great techniques here…
Again, this resentment may start small but sooner or later, it will grow and reveal itself in other areas of your relationship. For instance, she may become short-tempered with you, and you will see this as simply her being annoying or a nag. Do you see how this can easily become a big problem in your relationship?
Decrease in Sexual Intimacy. For many women, instead of discussing the topic of female orgasm with their partners, they deal with their sexual frustration by turning to other things such as using sex toys or engaging in self-pleasure or masturbation. While using pleasure toys and pleasuring one’s self is not bad at all, using it as a permanent substitute to reach an orgasm is!
Pretty soon, the act of making love itself will look less and less thrilling for her. After all, she knows she can get greater pleasure from her sex toys and through masturbation than by making love with you. As a result, she will be less and less inclined to engage in sex.
And now the tables have turned. As she loses interest in sex, now YOU are the one who’s going to start to feel sexually frustrated. Find new ways to recover sexual creativity here…
Relationship Withdrawal. When physical intimacy decreases, overall relationship closeness begins to decline as well. You see, if you don’t make love, you also don’t reach that magical moment called ‘afterglow’, when a couple truly bonds after having sex.
Think about it this way: each day that you don’t make love, is a day that brings the two of your further and further apart.
Infidelity. If a woman gets to experience sexual pleasure only through sex toys and by the use of her own hand, and if this makes her lose interest in the sexual act itself with you, then imagine how ‘easy’ it can be for her to fall for another man!
If a woman meets a person who can bring her tremendous physical pleasure that no one has ever given her before, isn’t it logical that she would fall head over heels over this person? After all, in her eyes, it’s this person who truly cares about her. Otherwise, why would he go to such great lengths to pleasure her?
Female orgasms are not often talked about but in reality, a lot of relationships suffer the consequences of women not reaching their climax. So if you want a great relationship, one that’s also characterized by great sex, then the best thing you can do is to ENSURE you know how to make her reach her climax. To learn more, click here…
Good luck!
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Nov 25, 2009
Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!
A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.
She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).
She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!
She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps…
YOU’re not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!
To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more...
YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.
Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.
So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.
Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here…
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A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.
She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).
She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!
She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps…
YOU’re not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!
To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more...
YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.
Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.
So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.
Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here…
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Online Dating: The Cold-Hearted Truth About Shirtless Photos
FACT: Survey after survey shows the body part that women vote sexiest and most desirable on men is the abs.
So how do you post shirtless photos in your online profile without lowering your value and looking like a try-hard tool?
Whether it's MySpace, Facebook, dating sites, or epersonals, any top online dating expert will tell you posting shirtless photos is a big "no no." In general, they are correct. But you've worked hard for that physique. So here are Two Simple Ways how to get away with it AND raise your value at the same time:
STRATEGY #1: Take photos where your body is NOT the main focus.
Don't think you have to hone in on your body for girls to notice all the hard work you've done at the gym. They notice. The point is that modesty is much more attractive than blatant obviousness.
A well-known example where the body is the main focus is the infamous self-taken mirror shot. This is possibly the absolute best way to scare women off. Want to add salt to the wound?...Pull your shirt up as you take the pic!
Examples of shirtless opportunities that will raise your value are candid action shots that are athletic or water related where you're not posing for the camera (i.e. drumming, sailing, hiking, surfing, skating, swimming, etc.)
***lifting weights doesn't count because the activity itself comes off as bragging. Who takes pictures of themselves working out? Honestly.
Not sure if your shirtless photo will lower or raise your attractiveness to women? Here's a super easy way to tell: Look at the photo and ask yourself, "Does it look like I specifically took my shirt off for the camera?" Or, "If photography was never invented would I still have my shirt off at that moment?" If the answer is "Yes" then you're good to go. If the answer is "No" then fight all your instinctual urges and trash that photo!
STRATEGY #2: Take photos where there's a REASON you're shirtless.
Take photos in situations where it's the social-norm to have your shirt off. Examples include the pool, lake, beach, water park, boat, BBQ on a hot day, etc. However, even in these shirtless scenarios you still want to make sure you're not trying to pose or flex those abs for the camera. Try and get pictures with friends who are also in their swimsuits. And photos with hot girls in bikinis is a fabulous way to create social proof AND take the primary attention off your own physique.
But listen! Don't go showing this article to every guy you know. After all, the guys who pose for their sexy abs shots are the reason a regular joe like me is able to steal beautiful women out from underneath their noses.
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So how do you post shirtless photos in your online profile without lowering your value and looking like a try-hard tool?
Whether it's MySpace, Facebook, dating sites, or epersonals, any top online dating expert will tell you posting shirtless photos is a big "no no." In general, they are correct. But you've worked hard for that physique. So here are Two Simple Ways how to get away with it AND raise your value at the same time:
STRATEGY #1: Take photos where your body is NOT the main focus.
Don't think you have to hone in on your body for girls to notice all the hard work you've done at the gym. They notice. The point is that modesty is much more attractive than blatant obviousness.
A well-known example where the body is the main focus is the infamous self-taken mirror shot. This is possibly the absolute best way to scare women off. Want to add salt to the wound?...Pull your shirt up as you take the pic!
Examples of shirtless opportunities that will raise your value are candid action shots that are athletic or water related where you're not posing for the camera (i.e. drumming, sailing, hiking, surfing, skating, swimming, etc.)
***lifting weights doesn't count because the activity itself comes off as bragging. Who takes pictures of themselves working out? Honestly.
Not sure if your shirtless photo will lower or raise your attractiveness to women? Here's a super easy way to tell: Look at the photo and ask yourself, "Does it look like I specifically took my shirt off for the camera?" Or, "If photography was never invented would I still have my shirt off at that moment?" If the answer is "Yes" then you're good to go. If the answer is "No" then fight all your instinctual urges and trash that photo!
STRATEGY #2: Take photos where there's a REASON you're shirtless.
Take photos in situations where it's the social-norm to have your shirt off. Examples include the pool, lake, beach, water park, boat, BBQ on a hot day, etc. However, even in these shirtless scenarios you still want to make sure you're not trying to pose or flex those abs for the camera. Try and get pictures with friends who are also in their swimsuits. And photos with hot girls in bikinis is a fabulous way to create social proof AND take the primary attention off your own physique.
But listen! Don't go showing this article to every guy you know. After all, the guys who pose for their sexy abs shots are the reason a regular joe like me is able to steal beautiful women out from underneath their noses.
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#1 Mistake Guys Make When Talking To Exceptionally Hot Women
You are an average guy just like me, probably messaging or contacting super hotties infrequently. And complicating it further, she responded POSITIVELY. What happens next? We think to ourselves, "Oh man, I need to act smart…I need to impress her…I would not like to blow this one up!" And then you BLOW UP!
THE PROBLEM
Why do we actually act different? It’s because we think, “This girl is too hot for me…I need to impress her…I need to prove myself to her”. And there’s the problem. You cannot get a girl by qualifying yourself to her. She will only go for someone who’s at par with her social status level. Remember that.
THE SOLUTION
DON’T do anything special. Just act normal and treat her like everybody else. Check her out and see if she meets your criteria. I hope ‘only good looks’ isn’t your decisive factor. Remember, she’s a normal girl with a more refined exterior. That’s it. In fact, some of them don’t really have a personality and they are just so shallow because of their looks. She's been able to cruise through life by using her looks to get friends, boyfriends, material items, jobs, etc. Whereas the rest of society has to use its personality, charm, wit, work ethic, sense of humor, etc. We call these particular women External Validation Whores! These are the women who feed off of getting attention from their external surroundings, and most of the attention comes from men. Haven’t you come across one? I bet you have. To add to that, it wasn’t your fault that you blew it up with her. She just wasn’t right herself. She was FLAWED and why would you ever go for a flawed person?
And if you're a Matchbook Method member...when you are talking with a hottie, remember not to act anything different. Let her impress you and gain your approval.
As infamous pick up artist Mehow quotes, "Keep the pimp hand strong."
THE PROBLEM
Why do we actually act different? It’s because we think, “This girl is too hot for me…I need to impress her…I need to prove myself to her”. And there’s the problem. You cannot get a girl by qualifying yourself to her. She will only go for someone who’s at par with her social status level. Remember that.
THE SOLUTION
DON’T do anything special. Just act normal and treat her like everybody else. Check her out and see if she meets your criteria. I hope ‘only good looks’ isn’t your decisive factor. Remember, she’s a normal girl with a more refined exterior. That’s it. In fact, some of them don’t really have a personality and they are just so shallow because of their looks. She's been able to cruise through life by using her looks to get friends, boyfriends, material items, jobs, etc. Whereas the rest of society has to use its personality, charm, wit, work ethic, sense of humor, etc. We call these particular women External Validation Whores! These are the women who feed off of getting attention from their external surroundings, and most of the attention comes from men. Haven’t you come across one? I bet you have. To add to that, it wasn’t your fault that you blew it up with her. She just wasn’t right herself. She was FLAWED and why would you ever go for a flawed person?
And if you're a Matchbook Method member...when you are talking with a hottie, remember not to act anything different. Let her impress you and gain your approval.
As infamous pick up artist Mehow quotes, "Keep the pimp hand strong."
Nov 24, 2009
Should You Approach Women?
Friends, first of all I must say, I am not a dating expert of the kind. I do not teach people how to approach women or how to get a girlfriend. But I have been in the dating field, as an ardent student for quite a few many years and here is what I have to say.
I have seen men, walking by the street or sitting in a restaurant or café... If they get to see a hot girl walking or sitting somewhere in a corner, they just keep staring at the girl. Dude, this is not the way you do it. Approach her. Approach her. Open her. Take the initiative and make the move.
Remember, a very beautiful girl has always been ogled at and approached (if at all). So she WILL NEVER APPROACH YOU. You get me?
Even if you look like Adonis or have the money of King Solomon, she will just look at you or give you signals that she is interested. Nothing more than that...And what if she has not seen you? Then what? Why take the chance, men? Go out and know for yourself What She Wants.
I have seen that different girls want different types of men. Some very beautiful girls are just so INSECURE. They want a man. They want a father figure, if they are the royal pampered brats. Some of them are tired of the boy-toys that they want a man. Some of them are tired of the players that they want an honest man. Some of them just want romance and they want to fall in love. If you give them what they want, they are yours forever. I am not asking you to be a player. I did not want to be a player, never. But I wanted to be a real attractive man.
And, Real Men APPROACH WOMEN!
I have seen men, walking by the street or sitting in a restaurant or café... If they get to see a hot girl walking or sitting somewhere in a corner, they just keep staring at the girl. Dude, this is not the way you do it. Approach her. Approach her. Open her. Take the initiative and make the move.
Remember, a very beautiful girl has always been ogled at and approached (if at all). So she WILL NEVER APPROACH YOU. You get me?
Even if you look like Adonis or have the money of King Solomon, she will just look at you or give you signals that she is interested. Nothing more than that...And what if she has not seen you? Then what? Why take the chance, men? Go out and know for yourself What She Wants.
I have seen that different girls want different types of men. Some very beautiful girls are just so INSECURE. They want a man. They want a father figure, if they are the royal pampered brats. Some of them are tired of the boy-toys that they want a man. Some of them are tired of the players that they want an honest man. Some of them just want romance and they want to fall in love. If you give them what they want, they are yours forever. I am not asking you to be a player. I did not want to be a player, never. But I wanted to be a real attractive man.
And, Real Men APPROACH WOMEN!
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