Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone
to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades, I've
learned that there's nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex
with any particular woman.
However, by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically
INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night
of your relationship.
1. Meet her in a non-traditional venue.
By that I mean, don't take her to a fancy dinner or do anything
else that she associates with a "date." If you do, that puts her
into the same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted with the
last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.
Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some
cheap diner for lunch. Don't make a big deal out of who pays for
what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her
meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping
to get laid.
As an alpha male, you shouldn't do anything because you're
"hoping to get laid." That reeks of desperation and kills
attraction that a woman feels.
A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so sex
is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has
to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a
sure thing.
2. Have the proper mindset throughout the date.
You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual. (To get yourself
into a sexual state, try watching porn just before the date,
but don't masturbate.) And it's important to feel relaxed. No
nervousness.
For a woman to become sexual, she needs to feel relaxed and
horny. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself,
because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport,
they eventually match emotional states with each other.
So when you're chilling with the girl, you should feel deeply
relaxed and horny, and then engage her in conversation about
neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting
relaxed and horny.
3. Get her alone with you.
Let's say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee
shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Things
are really going well there. The conversational vibe is
excellent. You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and
openness to intimacy.
Some signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you
include:
- Sitting with her inner thigh exposed.
- Fidgeting with her clothes. She might even unfasten a button or
two of her blouse.
- She engages in "triangle gazing." She'll look at one of your
eyes, then another, and then at your mouth.
- You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your
crotch.
The problem is you can't just say, "Let's go to my place and have
sex." With women you're on a first date with, whenever you
verbalize anything sexual, it kills the mood for her and results
in you sleeping alone that night.
Instead, mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to
your place. (Examples could be, "You should come hear my 'Best of
the 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art... I
have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your
opinion on")
Since the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone
together, it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that
scream, "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!"
Once the two of you are then alone, isolated at your place, you
can set the scene for the seduction.
It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable
enough with you at your house, so you need to be patient.
Sit on your couch and watch a movie. Slowly escalate. Hold hands,
stroke her hair, and so on from there.
Sexually, women are like irons. They heat up slowly. Keep that
in mind and don't rush things, and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date.
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to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades, I've
learned that there's nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex
with any particular woman.
However, by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically
INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night
of your relationship.
1. Meet her in a non-traditional venue.
By that I mean, don't take her to a fancy dinner or do anything
else that she associates with a "date." If you do, that puts her
into the same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted with the
last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.
Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some
cheap diner for lunch. Don't make a big deal out of who pays for
what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her
meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping
to get laid.
As an alpha male, you shouldn't do anything because you're
"hoping to get laid." That reeks of desperation and kills
attraction that a woman feels.
A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so sex
is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has
to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a
sure thing.
2. Have the proper mindset throughout the date.
You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual. (To get yourself
into a sexual state, try watching porn just before the date,
but don't masturbate.) And it's important to feel relaxed. No
nervousness.
For a woman to become sexual, she needs to feel relaxed and
horny. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself,
because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport,
they eventually match emotional states with each other.
So when you're chilling with the girl, you should feel deeply
relaxed and horny, and then engage her in conversation about
neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting
relaxed and horny.
3. Get her alone with you.
Let's say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee
shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Things
are really going well there. The conversational vibe is
excellent. You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and
openness to intimacy.
Some signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you
include:
- Sitting with her inner thigh exposed.
- Fidgeting with her clothes. She might even unfasten a button or
two of her blouse.
- She engages in "triangle gazing." She'll look at one of your
eyes, then another, and then at your mouth.
- You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your
crotch.
The problem is you can't just say, "Let's go to my place and have
sex." With women you're on a first date with, whenever you
verbalize anything sexual, it kills the mood for her and results
in you sleeping alone that night.
Instead, mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to
your place. (Examples could be, "You should come hear my 'Best of
the 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art... I
have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your
opinion on")
Since the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone
together, it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that
scream, "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!"
Once the two of you are then alone, isolated at your place, you
can set the scene for the seduction.
It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable
enough with you at your house, so you need to be patient.
Sit on your couch and watch a movie. Slowly escalate. Hold hands,
stroke her hair, and so on from there.
Sexually, women are like irons. They heat up slowly. Keep that
in mind and don't rush things, and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date.
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