If you ever break up with a woman and then run into her
later (especially when she is already dating another man...), it
can be a very difficult and embarrassing situation for both of
you...
In fact...you will probably find it very difficult to
be nice and polite to her...
But you've got to try.
Yes, I know how tempting it is to make "smart-ass" or
sarcastic comments and remarks.
I know how tempting it is to glare at the "other guy"
defensively.
I know how tempting it is to have feelings of revenge,
especially if you're been dumped. (First-time readers email
me to ask how they can take revenge on their ex's all the time.)
Or...if you're still in love with your ex, I know how
tempting it is to beg her to get back together with you.
Or to keep staring at her without knowing what to say.
But none of this childish behaviour will bring you
ANY good. It won't impress your ex or make her have more
respect for you, and it certainly won't help you win her back.
Here's my advice on how to deal with run-in encounters
with an ex-girlfriend:
1) If you have no intention of getting back together,
then just remain calm and polite during your BRIEF conversation
with her, and excuse yourself at the earliest moment. (So neither
of you will suddenly feel jealous or attraction again.)
2) Or...if you DO want to get her back, then act calm
and CONFIDENT, and talk to her as if you guys never went out
in the first place.
Do NOT mention the past relationship.
Do NOT try to "impress" her.
Do NOT beg her to come back.
Instead...just have a CASUAL conversation with her -
the same kind of conversation you would have with ANY woman
you meet. Smile and RELAX - even if you're burning inside.
Tease her a little and see if her responses are
positive. If they are, then flirt just a tiny bit...all
without asking to get back. Then tell her you'll talk to
her at another time and excuse yourself. Leave and walk
tall on the way out.
If you're with another girl, then feel free to
introduce her to your ex - WITHOUT telling your ex you're
dating her. Let your ex GUESS if you've moved on with your
life. Let her miss you. (In this scenario, do not flirt with
your ex, as it would be insulting to the other girl...)
Remember, guys...self-control is ESSENTIAL to
ANY area of life - including dating.
So have self-control and play it cool when you runinto your ex - it may help you win her back!
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later (especially when she is already dating another man...), it
can be a very difficult and embarrassing situation for both of
you...
In fact...you will probably find it very difficult to
be nice and polite to her...
But you've got to try.
Yes, I know how tempting it is to make "smart-ass" or
sarcastic comments and remarks.
I know how tempting it is to glare at the "other guy"
defensively.
I know how tempting it is to have feelings of revenge,
especially if you're been dumped. (First-time readers email
me to ask how they can take revenge on their ex's all the time.)
Or...if you're still in love with your ex, I know how
tempting it is to beg her to get back together with you.
Or to keep staring at her without knowing what to say.
But none of this childish behaviour will bring you
ANY good. It won't impress your ex or make her have more
respect for you, and it certainly won't help you win her back.
Here's my advice on how to deal with run-in encounters
with an ex-girlfriend:
1) If you have no intention of getting back together,
then just remain calm and polite during your BRIEF conversation
with her, and excuse yourself at the earliest moment. (So neither
of you will suddenly feel jealous or attraction again.)
2) Or...if you DO want to get her back, then act calm
and CONFIDENT, and talk to her as if you guys never went out
in the first place.
Do NOT mention the past relationship.
Do NOT try to "impress" her.
Do NOT beg her to come back.
Instead...just have a CASUAL conversation with her -
the same kind of conversation you would have with ANY woman
you meet. Smile and RELAX - even if you're burning inside.
Tease her a little and see if her responses are
positive. If they are, then flirt just a tiny bit...all
without asking to get back. Then tell her you'll talk to
her at another time and excuse yourself. Leave and walk
tall on the way out.
If you're with another girl, then feel free to
introduce her to your ex - WITHOUT telling your ex you're
dating her. Let your ex GUESS if you've moved on with your
life. Let her miss you. (In this scenario, do not flirt with
your ex, as it would be insulting to the other girl...)
Remember, guys...self-control is ESSENTIAL to
ANY area of life - including dating.
So have self-control and play it cool when you runinto your ex - it may help you win her back!
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