Let’s cut straight to the chase. I have been here for quite some time now and you bet I know the basics of this intriguing dating game. I still remember the day I got my hands on David De Angelo’s works and since then, it has grown over me. A human psychology lover and reader I always was, this serendipity just gave me the chance to express it in a much more interesting way.
I’ve working in and off the field for over three years now. And I’ve found something very interesting. Though all of them are unique, they are still connected to each other at some point. They are somewhat similar to each other. All of them react to the same things, more or less, and they CAN be predicted!
Anyway, not going off the tangent, in this blog, I would just tell you how I do it. You may or may not like it but that’s what works for me. Here it is.
What the very first thing that you do when you meet a girl. See, I’m not talking about bars and clubs only, but any cool situation where there’s not so much madness around. Hope you understand what I mean. The first thing you need to create is COMFORT and TRUST in the girl. She must know that you are safe and normal. If she feels you are weird, she would freak out. The first thing to keep in mind is that when you meet a girl, you cannot alarm her ‘Eww’ antenna. She may not feel anything about you, but you CANNOT be disgusting. At this moment, she should be in a mode like ‘Okay, what’s his deal’ and she will just hear what you say. You are talking about petty normal affairs, somewhat interesting, and you are adding value to her.
Remember she is not hooked to you or attracted to you at this point, but she is just going with the flow. You approached her and you don’t really look scary or weird, so she is just following your lead. No ‘turned on’ feelings as of yet!
Once you see she is getting comfortable, you have to break the rapport and create some tension, some conflict, some hint of danger. You start giving her a hard time and bring in the sexual vibe into the interaction. The sexual interest should always be SUGGESTED through covert innuendos and double entendres. And to keep the tension there, mixing it up with a bit hard to get, a bit of hard time to her is always best. Tease her and keep her on the edge. That’s how you create the sexual tension. One moment you insinuate sexual thoughts in her mind and the next moment you act completely unattached and give her a hard time, TESTING HER. When you start TESTING HER, you start qualifying her.
But it should always start with challenging and testing her, and then, flirting with her.
Tease Her > Qualify Her > Flirt with Her (Pull Her)
Are you thinking that’s it? Your work is done? You just need to make your move now? No. You cannot do that yet. The ‘testing her’ thing actually makes her more receptive to your advances and since she’s already enjoying your company, she would not be so stuck. But flirting doesn’t mean that you should make your move. Why? It’s because it would be a FOOL’S MATE! She doesn’t know you that well and she might regret that she didn’t do the right thing by accepting your sexual advances. So, she will stop all contacts or avoid you, after that one eventful day. So, it’s always better that you actually focus on building a connection with her. She MUST feel that she knows you. That’s when she FALLS IN LOVE. Otherwise, it would just be another one nightstand for her. Play nonchalant at first, give her a hard time and qualify her by asking various sorts of questions. If she passes them, go deep emotional with her. Show your vulnerable side to her. Show that you also can be serious. Show that you are a dependable person. You are pulling her at this moment. The next day, you can be a little nonchalant and give her a hard time again.
Challenge Her > Qualify Her > Connect With Her (Pull Her)
Try to understand that all of these to be done ALL AT THE SAME TIME. But it should start with challenging her. Challenging her, giving her a hard time just creates that sexual tension, which is so needed for the right sexual chemistry to form. And you can make your moves based on the sexual tension created between you two. The connection and the flirtation just create the right sexual vibe in the air. And after some time spent together, when you feel the time is right.
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