It's All About What You Want From The Girl

So, you have read my blog and my articles, and you probably know what women want, right? If you don’t know, here’s a recap of the truth.

Women want TWO things from you.

1.       Value – They won’t give a look at the troll on the street corner. Why? Perhaps, the troll was not beautiful. But if the troll is one handsome bum, then what happens? Even then she won’t. Why? No one else values him. That’s why she doesn’t value him. Unless you feel like someone who can add value to her social life, she won’t give you the time of her day. It is as simple as that. You may be thinking, what is value? Well, value means social value. If you rank higher than others do in the social ranking scale, you have high value. It can mean your looks, your power, your intelligence, or anything that assures her the ‘survival’ of her ‘healthy’ baby. Now, how does a woman come to know whether you are value or not. She observes you, she learns from you or from others. That’s how she decides whether you are value or not. The way you walk, the way you talk and even the way you stand, everything determines your value. And needless to say, your value creates the sexual attraction.

2.       Connection – This doesn’t go for every woman. Women who are just out to have some fun will not want any connection with you. If you want to connect, you are just wasting her time. But then again, it depends on the girl and the mood. If the girl is a bitch by birth, how can you help her? And it is a girls-only party and you are acting the teddy bear masked male escort hired to provide entertainment, it doesn’t make sense to just go and talk with a girl. At this moment, they just want to have some good time, but with a cool well-sculpted hunk, not caring if he is a troll or whatever. But anyway, most women, if they were looking for a boyfriend or husband material, they would want some connection as well. And that just amplifies their sexual attraction even more. Remember here, you approach a girl, she gets attracted to you and then she works on facilitating the connection. That’s how it works. So work on your attracting skills, mate.

Anyway, these are the two things that women want from men. And you already have read these before from my dating book or my blogs.

But the question is what you want.

This is the very first question that should be asked to anyone who wants to enter the field. Are you here to have a healthy sexual life or are you just looking to build up your social life? In a simpler way, what are you looking at? To pick up and fuck every women in town or to get the women of your dreams? Well, tell you frankly, I was myself very confused about what I wanted.

At one moment, I wanted to go and pickup every woman I came across. Another moment, I used to have this nagging feeling of inadequacy. I still don’t have my dream woman. It gets boring after some time. You approach a woman. She either responds or does not. If she does, you move it further and after some time, she falls in love with you and offers her whole mind, body and soul to you. And that’s when you re-question yourself. Is this what you want? Just getting laid? Well, I NEVER wanted to JUST get laid. Oh okay, I am a sexual man and of course, I get the urges. But damn! I don’t want to do it with every other girl I meet. It just doesn’t work for me like that. I want only a FEW but they should have the qualities that I want in a woman. It’s what I want from a woman now.

It comes through consistent dating and ultimate realization of what you want from your woman. But here you will meet another obstacle. That is, you DON’T get your ultimate woman. She just doesn’t exist. And if what you drew in your mind was immaculately perfect, then you are in bad luck, buddy.

She will never come into your life and if you judge out the ones that are at least near to her, you may end up alone. Just understand one thing. It is good to have an idea of what you want in a woman. But do understand the reality as well.

Here’s an example. I want my woman to be incredibly seductive, but at the same time, she should be pure. Not pure in the sense that she would be a virgin, but that she should have a sense of integrity. But integrity, to me, doesn’t really mean that she will claim that she is a bitch and to prove her statement, she will fuck all my male friends. But integrity is when she knows what she wants and she doesn’t get swayed from her path, unless she is forced to. But the tragedy here is - I have met women who are seductive and not faithful, and women who are not seductive but are faithful. Damn! Now, you understand the catch-22 situation.

Now, I am a person who wants just NOT to get laid, but create a relationship with a woman. Enough game I played….now is the time to settle down a bit. But there’s the problem. I have an ideal image in my mind and nobody matches up to that. You getting my point? So, I have to accept the reality that there are NO girls as such, who will be super hot, and who will have conscience. Women, if they are hot, will always test you and go for a better option. Women can NEVER be faithful. And of course, I don’t blame them. Human beings are sexual creatures, and we are meant to mate with better candidates. So, if she gets someone better than you do, who proves to be of more value and provides her even deeper connection, you lost her.

So, it is FOOLISH to accept that once you have got her, she is yours. NEVER! You don’t own her. She leaves you whenever she wants. And unless you improve your game to that level, you are doomed.

And let’s not get distracted from the topic. You DON’T get what you want (not applicable to a very few people who are lucky to have got what and who they wanted). But nevertheless, it is always better to work on your game and not keep any stringent quality parameter. Choose which quality is the priority and search a woman based on that. Don’t create any ideal image in your mind. Remember, you are not going to get women from your virtual world, but from the very imperfect realistic world you live in.

Here’s even a better advice. Don’t focus on what kind of girl you want. Focus on what you want out of the girl. Do you want to just have sex with her? A nice pair of boobs and sexy ass would do. If you want a girlfriend to connect with emotionally, you might want to look beyond the looks and see how as a person she is.

So, it’s NOT what girl you want. It’s what you want out of the girl.

That’s it for today. See ya soon.
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