Sudden Epiphany to Approaching Women on the Street

It was weird and it was sudden. Street approaching women,though I have been doing it for quite some time now, was still some of elusive goal for me. Trust me when I say it needs lot of motivation to keep on doing something when you fail again and again. But I always knew this is a PRACTICE and one day I will win, I will reach my goal and I DID!

Now, I can consistently approach and open women on thestreet without any approach anxiety whatsoever. This will give goose bumps to any man even at the thought of approaching a woman on the street. But is it that hard as it sounds? Tell you honestly, it is NOT. 

Here’s a kicker. Women want to be approached.

Yes, women that you see on the streets want to be approached. They want to be approached by a MAN. They want to meet a man who isnot afraid to show himself, not scared to carry himself without any apology through the world and who has the courage to go for what he wants. This is sheer masculinity and any woman craves this showmanship of masculinity.

Imagine this situation. You are standing in a bus stop and you see her. Would she respect you if you fearfully glance at her and yet notwalk up to her? It would be better if you would throw all caution to the windand with full masculine power, strut up to her and spurt out a Hi with acharming disarming smile.

And that’s what I do. Consequently, they always respond well to that. I just go up to her and say, “Hi, I am Ron.” They instantly respondwith their name. Whether I see them on the street walking, waiting for bus,sitting beside me in a food stall or standing in a queue behind me, you just turn or walk towards them and say Hi. What does this Hi means? It means thatyou are interested to meet them. Of course, you are not hiding that you are picking them up. You are being obvious and you are confident about it all the same.

This is what those women want. Here is what they feel when you approach them direct on the street.

• He is smart.
• He is cute.
• He is a MAN.
• He is interested in me.
• He is different.
• He is interesting.
• He makes me feel like a woman.
• I like him.

You see, if you do it right, it totally awes a woman, andshe finds it extremely romantic and flirtatious. This is how a person issupposed to meet another person. Approaching is not the job of a woman. Women are supposed to be submissive and receptive. Men are supposed to be dominant and assertive. When you approach a woman, you instinctively become a man in her eyes. It all starts with a Hi, but remember to do it right. If you do it wrong, you might end up with a bad impression on her.

Some things that you should remember when you approach a woman on the street are.

• Don’t peer at her sleazily or creepily.
• Be spontaneous.
• Just say Hi.

Well, this is about street approaching women, but there are...

Problems in Street Approaching Women

And we will solve them here. 

Let's say you are walking down the street and you saw a very pretty woman WITH a guy (just happened with me). Would you be able to go up to the woman and say Hi. It is odd and it normally won't work unless you get some time to work upon the woman. He might be his friend, but will she stop for a 15-minute chat with you disregarding his friend, even if they are in a hurry? No she won't and she will think about her reputation as well, probably not entertaining you too much unless she is bored with that guy and wants to get rid of him. 

Now if it was some club where you were chilling out, you could have just approached them as a mixed set, showing them you are just being social. Can you do that while street approaching a woman? Yes, you can. BUT you have to understand the dynamics between the boy and the girl. Here are a couple of situations where you can approach them easily.

1. They are seated beside you.
2. They are talking to other people.
3. They happen to pass by you. 

In this case, you always have to engage the guy, rather than the girl. Find a way to engage the guy. When the girl is alone or with her girlfriends, it is easy. Just go and talk to the girl/girls. One opener you will use is Hi, Hello, Yo (direct opener) or a Situational Comment (situational opener). But now if they are with a guy or a couple of guys, what do you do? You have to initiate a conversation with the guy/guys. But is not that a bit odd that a guy approaches another guy? You need a reason to speak, right? It gets easy when you are in a social environment (club, restaurant, cafe, bar, etc). But what if you are in a bus, train or in the street, what will you do? It sure is hard and you cannot always approach the mixed set. 

Always remember: You NEED a reason. And you will not get a proper reason to diffuse that buffed up muscle guy always. Even if you don't know that guy is not her boyfriend, your approach will not come to fruition since she is not ready for it. 

For a street approach, you need two points to be fulfilled:

1. She is ready for your approach. You cannot figure this unless you approach her. you need to put your balls on the line to find out if she wants it or not, if it works out or not. 
2. There is no cock-blocks in your way. Even if she wants in her heart, she may not respond because she has her mom or her nice guy boyfriend with her. Unless you know how to diffuse her mom or her bf, it is an uphill task and she may not be able to respond positive even if she wants. 

If she is alone or with her girlfriends, you can just go and say Hi or any comment (applicable only when she is in your proximity). If she has her mom or another guy friend who she cares about, you better open them first, before flirting with her. But it is always much easier in the former case. That's the rule of street approaching women. 

That’s all you need to know about street approaching women for now. I will catch up with you later.

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