does with ALL his girls?
This is what should be running through her head while you tease
and flirt with her. It makes her want to keep playing the game.
Whenever she's with a guy like this, she'll want to look her best,
and act her sexiest, in order to get the confirmation she craves.
The key is to NEVER give her total confirmation.
When a woman is attracted to you, she desperately wants to know
if the feeling is mutual!
You can work women into a frenzy this way...by NEVER letting the
girl know that she's "won."
For this reason, you must never tell her how long you've wanted
to ask her out, admit how attracted you are to her, or tell her
how you think the two of you would be "great together."
If these sound like winning romantic gestures, turn off your
television, because you've been watching too many Hollywood
movies.
Only in the movies can the dork or the shy guy win over the
hottest girl in school in the end because he makes some grand,
romantic declaration.
In reality, it's more likely that she'll regard this as weakness
on your part. (Remember, emotional STRENGTH is one of the big
keys to attraction.)
Nine times out of ten, your "confession" isn't going to prompt
her to confess her own attraction to you. It will only take you
down a notch in her eyes. You are no longer an original; you are
just another guy who can't control his emotions or his libido.
Play it cool and act like nothing fazes you.
You're a train moving full-steam ahead.
The choice is hers:
She can climb onboard and take an exciting ride, or you can roll
without her to the next stop. Either way, you're an independent
guy, doing your own thing.
It will become clear whether she is interested in you on a sexual
level.
You won't be shooting in the dark, worrying that she'll freak out
if you try to touch her.
When you follow the correct progression of steps, escalating from
conversation to physical touching, you'll never have to wonder
whether she "likes you as a friend" or whether she's interested
in more.
You'll know how to read her signals, and your tactics will be
gently leading her down the path to "yes"...instead of giving her
reasons to say "oh, look at the time...I should be getting home
soon."
Evaporate the physical boundaries between you by making body
contact with her. The best times to do so are when you're both
laughing.
Reach over and give her a knee a light touch. High-five her and
interlace your fingers with her, then disengage.
What you're doing is acclimating her to your touch, so that it
becomes something she is comfortable with. This way, later in the
night when you hold her hand, kiss her for the first time, or
initiate the foreplay that leads to sex, she's already "warmed
up" to your touch.
Guys will often fail to escalate because they don't want to be
seen as too aggressive. (It's just an excuse, really, for not
wanting to risk rejection--and they're not confident that she
will agree to the escalation, because they haven't laid the
right groundwork.)
If you've laid the groundwork, made her physically comfortable
with you, and built up her attraction by framing yourself as a
hard-to-get "prize," she'll be receptive when you take things to
the next level. But it's on you to lead her there.
(Again this is something covered in the following site):
==> http://www.chickmagnet101.com/
I remember one time having a girl sleep over at my house, in my
bed, and I didn't "try anything" because I didn't want to screw
it up. We lay there together and talked for hours, then she
drifted off to sleep while I laid next to her all night with a
hard-on.
I figured there was no hurry, and that if I acted like a
gentleman she'd trust me and we'd have sex next time.
Unfortunately, there was no "next time." She never called me
again. By not escalating with her, she viewed me as a Wuss, and
she may have even felt a little bit insulted.
She's an intelligent, sexually experienced adult.
She knew what was supposed to follow when she willingly climbed
into my bed and laid down next to me. But I failed to lead her
down that path.
The key is to BUILD UP to intimacy and sex with a progression of
steps. Perhaps the biggest mistake that guys make is trying to
seduce women before the groundwork has been laid.
You don't ask a girl out on a date before you've spent time
chatting with her and getting her interested in you. Likewise,
you shouldn't go for a kiss when you haven't even laid a finger
on her all night.
You build up to the first kiss by making contact with her
throughout the evening: touching her leg while you tell a story;
giving her a brief hand massage; brushing her hair back from her
eyes; placing your hand on the small of her back as you guide her
through a door...etc.
(The small of her back is actually a GREAT spot to make contact
with. It's an erogenous zone that is dense with nerve endings.)
If there is a mutual attraction, let her be the one to express
her feelings to YOU, and when she does, play it even more cool.
If she says something that implies she likes you and wants to
date you, give a vague response that strings her along.
HER: "So what you do you think...y'know, about you and me?"
YOU: "I've enjoyed spending time with you. Let's just take it
slow and see where it goes...no pressure, no expectations."
(The more you seem like you don't really give a shit either way,
the more DESPERATELY she'll want you to validate her feelings!)
But don't give her that validation. Keep her wondering: will she
ever be able to have you all for herself, or will you be with
another girl tomorrow when she's waiting for your phone call?
She'll want to keep earning points with you, to get the
confirmation that she desires. In the meantime, you are the one
holding the cards.
- Dean Cortez_______________________________________________________
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