Importance of First Impressions - From "Blink"

There is a former NY Times best selling book
called Blink.  It's a great book, a definite
'must-read'.  It is about the importance of first impressions.

The key idea of Blink, is that we humans make
decisions almost immediately, whether we
realize it or not.

It happens at a subconscious level, and
happens in the 'blink of an eye'.
By the way, this isn't just conjecture.

The book backs this up with numerous studies,
and even explains why this significance of
these studies has been consistently over-looked
by society

I think you can see where I'm going with
this, and what it has to do with your success
with women. 

Just consider the importance of your first impression in your dating life.
Women make a decision about you based on that
all important first impression.  It happens
too fast for any of us to notice, but it is a
VERY real phenomenon.

It goes something like this:

She see's you.

...


Blink

...

And BOOM!

She's has an opinion of you.

The REALLY bad news, according to lots
of studies in the book, is that we humans
really aren't capable of overcoming this
first impression, even though we fool
ourselves into thinking we can.

Once a first impression is set, we THINK
we can look past it and see new aspects
of a person without the 'overwhelming'
influence of that first impression.... but
we're WRONG.

Over and over again studies on topics as
broad as racism to roulette show our first
impressions really do stick with us
no matter how we convince ourselves otherwise.

For example, one study showed trained
philharmonic orchestra professionals COULD
NOT accurately judge the quality of someone's
playing once they had SEEN that person - even
if they had just seen that person for a
minute.

Once they saw that person they subconsciously
formed an opinion of that person AS A
MUSICIAN - and that they were NOT able
to accurately hear that persons playing
as if that first impression had never been
made.

That literally means once a woman gets a first
impression of you she is literally INCAPABLE
of seeing you outside of that 'filter' that
was created by her first impression.

You simply can NOT 'turn back the clock' and
fix a bad first impression. First impressions are 

spontaneous and almost permanent.

I know that sounds harsh, but this is a
human instinct that has been shown over and
over again to be true, so I want to make
sure you understand the full force of this
phenomenon.

Even if you read the book and study the
phenomenon, overcoming your 'blindspot'
created by your first impression takes
constant conscious effort that just isn't
realistic in everyday life.

Besides, even if you COULD recover from a bad first
impression, why in hell would you want to?

That's like having to overcome a 20 point
deficit every time you come out for the 2nd
half of the game.

Sure... MAYBE it can be done in certain
circumstances.

But isn't it better to be 20 points ahead
at half time?

I always thought so.

The truth is the OPPORTUNITY here is much
greater then you may imagine.

After all, women (or any of us, for that matter)
DO NOT understand how powerful this 'filter'
of the first impression is.

That means if you can consistently make a GREAT,
(or even AMAZINGLY strong and confident), first
impression, she is going to see EVERYTHING you
do through that glowing first impression.

That's right, EVEN if you 'slip up' for a bit
and act like a COMPLETE DORK, she is interpreting
that through this 'strong and confident' filter
permanently set in her consciousness...

(Trust me, I've been there.  One time I literally
spilled coffee on my date, stammered out an apology,
and all she could talk about later that night was
how smooth I was on the date... talk about the
power of a good first impression!)

I guess you could say it's the closest thing men
can have to cleavage.  Get this ONE THING right
and they will overlook a lot of DUMB behavior
on your part.

So how do you CREATE this strong and confident
first impression?

Well, there are really TWO types of first impressions.

The first one where she already has noticed you and 

formed an opinion about you. This is without your 

knowledge even and that's why you always have to be 

attractive around women.

The ones you control, as in when YOU are
approaching HER and starting up a conversation.

(This ASSUMES, of course, that she hasn't already
noticed you and formed a first impression of you.)

This is the dreaded cold-approach some guys fear, but
the truth is it allows us an incredible amount of
control over the first impression.

The REALLY GREAT news is that the 'harder' the
situation seems (ie. she's busy, talking with
friends, or looks just plain un-approachable) -
The EASIER it is to nail an amazing first impression
when you show you can handle these simple obstacles
that throw so many of the other guys off.

In fact, when you know how to approach
correctly in ANY environment this whole game becomes
incredibly easy - thanks to that 'halo effect' of
the first impression.
Now, do you understand the importance of your first
impression?!
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