The first date with a woman can be a nerve-wracking experience.
You've spent the past hour or so with her and then wonder "what's
the next step?"
To be honest, it's hard to give an exact answer. What you to
at the end of the first date really depends on how it went.
Specifically I recommend you evaluate if you REALLY want to
see this girl again. If you do, then there's a few things to
do.
On the other hand, if you didn't then this is the moment to
cut your losses and move on.
In this message, I'm going to give a few pointers about the
end of the first date. Most importantly, I'll give reveal how
to escalate the date into a sexual encounter.
When you're coming to the end of the date, you should do a quick
evaluation and make a decision based on which of these four
results you want. (This will determine what you should do.)
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Result #1: Go your separate ways
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Let's be honest here...
There will be first dates where you don't hit it off.
Either there was no chemistry or your personalities don't mesh,
it's obvious the two of you won't be going on a second date.
Once you realize things aren't working, it's time to end the date
and cut your losses!
Since the date was brief, you really haven't wasted that much
time or money. By ending the date quickly, you'll be able to
avoid hurt feelings and move on to the next woman.
When a date has gone badly, just end it and tell her you have
to go do something. In all likelihood, she feels the same way,
so it's not like you have to make up an elaborate excuse.
The ONE thing you shouldn't do is promise you'll call her if
you're not planning to. End the date and move on.
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Result #2: You set up a second date
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Many guys think a first date is only successful if you end up
having sex. In my opinion, this is wrong!
There are a lot of times when you want to have a lot of fun on a
first date, but don't want it to lead to sex. This is especially
true if you're looking for a long-term relationship.
During your first date, you'll probably get an idea if there's
chemistry between the two of you. At this point, you can try two
things:
First you can suggest a 'venue change' (I'll cover this in the
next section) and go on an immediate second date.
Or you can end the date if one of you has already made plans
after the first date.
Now if one of you has to leave after the first date, I suggest
you immediately set up a follow up date.
Here's how to do it...
As you're ending the date, take something from the conversation
and playfully turn it into concrete plans for landing that
second date.
For instance if she expressed interest in a particular type of
music mention that you're checking out a band which is similar
to her taste. Then ask if she wants to 'tag along' with you.
Or even now that you've broken the ice, you could go out to
dinner or promise her a home cooked meal. The point is one the
first date has ending, immediately make plans for the second
plan.
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Result #3: Transition to the second date
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One technique many guys use at the end of a first date is to do
a 'venue change'. This is where you leave the location of your
first date and immediately go another place.
Since you're changing locations the woman will subconsciously
think you've gone from the first date to a second date.
As I mentioned before, your first date should be real casual.
But if you feel a lot of chemistry has been built, you can use a
venue change to continue the positive emotions and go to a
place where the two of you'll get to know each other better.
The best way to do a venue change is to plan it out before the
first date. If things go well, you can casually mention you're
planning on meeting some friends at this place and ask if
she wants to 'tag along'.
If she agrees you should immediately leave the location of your
first date and transition right into the second.
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Result #4: Make things sexual
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Regardless of whether you've pulled a venue change or just had a
single date, there might be an opportunity to have sex with a
woman on the first date.
Now before we proceed, I just want to mention that having sex on
the first date is something that doesn't happen very often,
especially if you're trying to build a relationship.
So don't be too disappointed if you don't "get any."
On the other hand, if you're determined to have sex then you
should first find out if she is interested in you in a sexual way.
The best way to determine this is to kiss her.
In fact, if you have ANY interest in this girl, it's important to
go for the kiss.
This is the quickest way to find out if she likes you or not.
If you determine she wants to make things more intimate, you can
try going back to one your places.
Then once you're in private, you can allow nature to take its
course.
You've spent the past hour or so with her and then wonder "what's
the next step?"
To be honest, it's hard to give an exact answer. What you to
at the end of the first date really depends on how it went.
Specifically I recommend you evaluate if you REALLY want to
see this girl again. If you do, then there's a few things to
do.
On the other hand, if you didn't then this is the moment to
cut your losses and move on.
In this message, I'm going to give a few pointers about the
end of the first date. Most importantly, I'll give reveal how
to escalate the date into a sexual encounter.
When you're coming to the end of the date, you should do a quick
evaluation and make a decision based on which of these four
results you want. (This will determine what you should do.)
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Result #1: Go your separate ways
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Let's be honest here...
There will be first dates where you don't hit it off.
Either there was no chemistry or your personalities don't mesh,
it's obvious the two of you won't be going on a second date.
Once you realize things aren't working, it's time to end the date
and cut your losses!
Since the date was brief, you really haven't wasted that much
time or money. By ending the date quickly, you'll be able to
avoid hurt feelings and move on to the next woman.
When a date has gone badly, just end it and tell her you have
to go do something. In all likelihood, she feels the same way,
so it's not like you have to make up an elaborate excuse.
The ONE thing you shouldn't do is promise you'll call her if
you're not planning to. End the date and move on.
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Result #2: You set up a second date
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Many guys think a first date is only successful if you end up
having sex. In my opinion, this is wrong!
There are a lot of times when you want to have a lot of fun on a
first date, but don't want it to lead to sex. This is especially
true if you're looking for a long-term relationship.
During your first date, you'll probably get an idea if there's
chemistry between the two of you. At this point, you can try two
things:
First you can suggest a 'venue change' (I'll cover this in the
next section) and go on an immediate second date.
Or you can end the date if one of you has already made plans
after the first date.
Now if one of you has to leave after the first date, I suggest
you immediately set up a follow up date.
Here's how to do it...
As you're ending the date, take something from the conversation
and playfully turn it into concrete plans for landing that
second date.
For instance if she expressed interest in a particular type of
music mention that you're checking out a band which is similar
to her taste. Then ask if she wants to 'tag along' with you.
Or even now that you've broken the ice, you could go out to
dinner or promise her a home cooked meal. The point is one the
first date has ending, immediately make plans for the second
plan.
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Result #3: Transition to the second date
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
One technique many guys use at the end of a first date is to do
a 'venue change'. This is where you leave the location of your
first date and immediately go another place.
Since you're changing locations the woman will subconsciously
think you've gone from the first date to a second date.
As I mentioned before, your first date should be real casual.
But if you feel a lot of chemistry has been built, you can use a
venue change to continue the positive emotions and go to a
place where the two of you'll get to know each other better.
The best way to do a venue change is to plan it out before the
first date. If things go well, you can casually mention you're
planning on meeting some friends at this place and ask if
she wants to 'tag along'.
If she agrees you should immediately leave the location of your
first date and transition right into the second.
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Result #4: Make things sexual
=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
Regardless of whether you've pulled a venue change or just had a
single date, there might be an opportunity to have sex with a
woman on the first date.
Now before we proceed, I just want to mention that having sex on
the first date is something that doesn't happen very often,
especially if you're trying to build a relationship.
So don't be too disappointed if you don't "get any."
On the other hand, if you're determined to have sex then you
should first find out if she is interested in you in a sexual way.
The best way to determine this is to kiss her.
In fact, if you have ANY interest in this girl, it's important to
go for the kiss.
This is the quickest way to find out if she likes you or not.
If you determine she wants to make things more intimate, you can
try going back to one your places.
Then once you're in private, you can allow nature to take its
course.
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