A question that I often get from my newsletter readers
is, "When should I say 'I love you'"?
For most of my readers, the answer is "NEVER".
Why? Because chances are, if you've only signed up to
this newsletter recently, you haven't gone out with the woman for
a long enough time yet. (By a long enough time I mean at least
one or two years.)
Many guys make the mistake of "confessing" their love
too early - when the woman does not have the same level of
commitment yet.
And guess what happens when you confess your love to a
woman who does not share the same level of commitment?
Well...two things may happen...
1) If she does indeed like you a lot, then she will
start taking you for granted because you've told her you love
her. Her attraction for you will almost always drop unless
there is already a VERY stable relationship between you too.
(Highly unlikely if you've only been going out for a few
months.)
2) Or...if she is just a woman you're dating...and
does not share the same feelings yet (as in she likes you,
but does not "love" you yet), she'll probably have no choice
but to break your heart by saying something like, "I wish
you wouldn't say that" or "Let's just be friends"...
So how do you know if you're ready to "pop the words"?
Use the following checklist:
1) You've gone out for AT LEAST a year.
2) You know she shares the same feelings.
3) Both of you have been loyal to each other the whole
time.
4) You've weathered storms together.
5) You know she wants to commit to you.
6) You know there's a CHANCE she's the girl you're going
to marry.
7) You know each other's secrets that nobody else know
about.
8) You're not saying "I love you" to get anything in
return. (Example: Sex)
9) You know it's real.
10) You're not saying it because you want her to
say it back.
Once again, be careful to NOT jump the gun and say
these words too early, or you will push your woman away from
you like a speeding bullet from an air rifle!
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is, "When should I say 'I love you'"?
For most of my readers, the answer is "NEVER".
Why? Because chances are, if you've only signed up to
this newsletter recently, you haven't gone out with the woman for
a long enough time yet. (By a long enough time I mean at least
one or two years.)
Many guys make the mistake of "confessing" their love
too early - when the woman does not have the same level of
commitment yet.
And guess what happens when you confess your love to a
woman who does not share the same level of commitment?
Well...two things may happen...
1) If she does indeed like you a lot, then she will
start taking you for granted because you've told her you love
her. Her attraction for you will almost always drop unless
there is already a VERY stable relationship between you too.
(Highly unlikely if you've only been going out for a few
months.)
2) Or...if she is just a woman you're dating...and
does not share the same feelings yet (as in she likes you,
but does not "love" you yet), she'll probably have no choice
but to break your heart by saying something like, "I wish
you wouldn't say that" or "Let's just be friends"...
So how do you know if you're ready to "pop the words"?
Use the following checklist:
1) You've gone out for AT LEAST a year.
2) You know she shares the same feelings.
3) Both of you have been loyal to each other the whole
time.
4) You've weathered storms together.
5) You know she wants to commit to you.
6) You know there's a CHANCE she's the girl you're going
to marry.
7) You know each other's secrets that nobody else know
about.
8) You're not saying "I love you" to get anything in
return. (Example: Sex)
9) You know it's real.
10) You're not saying it because you want her to
say it back.
Once again, be careful to NOT jump the gun and say
these words too early, or you will push your woman away from
you like a speeding bullet from an air rifle!
_______________________________________________________
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